Why do some people feel they have to remark upon my eating habits when it's none of their business?

Question

Some days I don't feel hungry and don't eat anything. Other days I feel like I'm starving and eat everything edible I can find until I get a pain from it. Some days I just eat my dinner and nothing else. Some days I eat normally.

I'm an adult and I'm not overweight or underweight. I look and feel healthy enough.

But why are people so interested in my diet they either tell me I must eat or to stop being a piglet. It really, really annoys me.

Does it annoy anyone else?

Today I'm having a hungry day, in case anyone is wondering.

That's a nice thought but I don't think they care about me Chambers.

I love you lot! You know exactly what I mean.
I get that too Pinhed ninety, I like a lot of butter on my bread, which leads to "Do you like a bit of bread with your butter?"

A size 10 is fat then, is it First L? What a f.ucking comedian you are.

Answer 1

i can relate. it's none of their business. when i'm salting my food, (and i do use a lot of salt), and someone remarks, "man, that's a lot of salt", or, "you going to have some food with your salt?", i just reply, "well, i guess it's lucky i'm the one eating it!" , or , "oh, i guess i'll just have to eat it then". that shuts them up usually. if they persist, i just throw salt in their eyes.

Answer 2

I tend to have the same eating habits and I'm a personal trainer. I'm not always hungry, so I don't take the time to eat. When I am hungry, I eat everything in sight. I know I should eat 3 squares a day, but it doesn't always work out that way. I'm healthy and fit and to me, that's all that matters. If you are comfortable with your health and fitness level, then don't worry about what the rest of the world thinks. Just remember, "pigging out" is okay when you're young and have a high metabolism, but it catches up with you as you get older - the weight starts to add on quickly.

Answer 3

Oh my gosh you are so right. it is annoying.
And none of there fr*cking business!
I live in LA and its like a religion down here.
There are the barfers, the Anorexics, the feeders, the vegans, the organics, and the fast food junkies.
Everyone is critisising everyone else. Its madness.
I actually had an old couple tell my 5 year old to clean her plate. And I heard two teenage girls tell this other girl (at a table across the isle) that if she ate her whole hamberger she would have to go put her finger down her throat. I hope they new each other but my god!
My advice ignore them all! Eat what you want when you want and enjoy life!

Answer 4

You know what, I get that all the time. "Oh Chris you don't eat enough", "Oh Chris, is that ALL your eating", "Oh Chris, leave some of the buffet for everyone else" and so forth. My weight is fine, my last annual health check revealed I was in very good health. A while back I didn't have much for lunch and I was getting a ton of grief from several of my work colleagues, which got worse when I began to feel ill later that day - "it's his own stupid fault for not eating properly" and so forth. I actually had gastric flu and had to go to hospital.

So yes, I can sympathise. Had a normal eating day, for the record.

Answer 5

I'm pretty much the same; at certain times of the month I eat everything in sight, other times I don't each much except fruit and toast. When I was a young teenager all my teachers and parents used to think I was anorexic or something which really annoyed me, because I clearly wasn't! In the end, I told them to mind their own business and eventually left me alone.

Answer 6

One theory is that unless they are being insistent (one way or the other), they are probably just trying to make conversation, or make a sad attempt at humor.

You probably look fabulous, so there may be some envy from people who are envious of the way you look, your willpower (on low appetite days) or your ability to look healthy on your big appetite days.

Criticism is often a mask for other stuff--envy of you, frustration of their own habits, nervousness about talking, etc.

You sound like you are truly comfortable with your own habits, something these people don't share.

Try a flip response, "I'm fine, thanks," then change the subject to something positive about them, such as a compliment on their outfit or hair. Will work 99% of the time.

Answer 7

It used to annoy me too, I used to be very thin and everywhere I went people insisted that I eat, if I was hungry I did, if not I politely turned them down, but I think if people are remarking to you on your eating habits then they are just showing concern, be happy that someone cares while taking it with a grain of salt. Who cares what other people think, as long as you are happy and healthy

Answer 8

I know exactly what you mean! I speak to my sister every day and every day she will ask me what I'm cooking for dinner. No matter what I say it's wrong, sometimes she says my son should be taken away from me because I'm feeding him rubbish! Sometimes she says my son should be taken away from me because it's cruel to make him eat only healthy fresh vegetables and that kids like to eat what other kids are eating and if I say I haven't decided what we are having yet, she says my son should be taken away from me because only a bad mother would be that disorganised!!

For the last week, whenever she phones and asks what we're having I've said meat, greens, gravy and potato's and I know I'm a terrible mother! She has spent all week telling me what a great mother I am and that I shouldn't do myself down!!

Answer 9

I get it to. People just dont understand you eat when you want to eat and that not every day is the same. That you dont necessarily have to have a fixed eating routine to be healthy. I go by what my body tellos me, some days I have cravings for icecream even though its freezing cold but i will still eat it. I think listening to what your body tells me makes me healthier as who better than my body to tell me what it needs.

Answer 10

Yes I can relate and understand where you are coming from in terms of "busy bodies" or noisy people. There are those who really care and there are those who want to be in your life to rule you and because they have nothing better to do.Show appreciation towards those who care,and ignore the fools who try to dig information up about your personal life/habits.It's quite obvious those kind of people have nothing better to do with their lives other than worry about you.

Answer 11

In Alcoholocs Anonymous they have a saying they use when someone is worrying about someone else's problems. It is "Work your own program." This means, "You have problems of your own -- you can't solve them if you're concerning yourself with someone else's."

These people criticizing you are just trying to distract themselves from their own troubles.

You can stop them by saying, "Yes, I totally agree. I'm a pig!" Smile and keep eating.