was not honest about her sexual past.it bothers me that she had a one night stand and that she wasnt honest about her past.what should i do?
2006-09-17 11:11:41 · 11 answers · asked by ARKAN 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
how did you find out? Case closed.
It doesn't matter really. She told you obviously or if you heard it elsewhere you should ask her.
I am sure there will be bigger bumps in the road than such trival things. Put yourself in her shoes if it bothers you don't you think it bothered her enough not to tell you?
2006-09-17 11:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to think if you have been completely open and honest with her. Then if you really care about her, despite her secret from you, then you need to take steps to get your relationship back on track.
Just because she did not tell you does not mean she was not honest with you, UNLESS, you directly asked her had she had a one night stand and she told you "no". But if she did not tell you and then you found out, then that just means she kept it from you.
Why is it that you are now starting to really look into her past as opposed to the last 6 years. Is it because you are now engaged? After 6 years, yall should practically know everything about each other, and if she kept it from you then there had to be a reason. Have you asked why she kept it from you as opposed to having some major blowup and going off on her? Judge not lest you be judged yourself. Have you been completely honest with her about your past?
Also, if you are religious at all, then you know that the devil always tries to destroy what God puts together.
2006-09-17 18:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are perfect you don't have a right to judge her. Maybe it meant nothing to her and she just wanted to forget about it. Maybe she loves you so much that she did not want to hurt you.
Are you going to let something from the past stop you from having a good life with the woman you love. If you ask me I would wonder what kind of life I could have with someone like you, someone who would not let me be happy because of something I did a long time ago. My advice to you is to grow up and get over it.
2006-09-17 18:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by KieKie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she confessed to you before you found out, then it shows she wishes to be honest with you and it's a positive thing.
If, after six months, you found out about her past before she confessed to you, then it's possible that she was willing to hide the truth from you forever.
I don't blame you a bit for re-thinking your relationship. Ultimately, nothing of this world is perfect however. You have to balance her good points with her bad points. Only you can assign a weight to this bad point. Maybe it completely outweighs all of her good points.. maybe it doesn't.
Good luck.
2006-09-17 18:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by HEYMAYB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is you should not worry about it look at the things you don't want anyone to know ,we all have skeletons in our closet the question you need to ask yourself is . Do you love her can you forgive her for something that you might need someone one day to forgive you ? after all it came out so let it go and move on with her and don't look back
2006-09-17 18:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happened is the past...some personal things need not be discussed...what matters is the future...set ground rules for the future to be honest and open and put what happened before you behind you.
2006-09-17 18:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was before you came along then don't worry about it. If it was after, then you do what you feel is right. If you can't get over it then get gone!
2006-09-17 18:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life as if it never happened. You can't wear one of those things out. Trust me, I've tried!!.
2006-09-17 18:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was in the past. sit down and have a discussion and share your past relationships. she probly waitin for you to pop the question. good luck
2006-09-17 19:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by sharon b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so surprised? that's what single people do. the liberal-minded people like to say "it's their right." you should probably meet and marry someone with better moral values.
2006-09-17 18:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by chit-chaat7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋