why is it i cant allow myself to fully be happy?
whenever i have a reason to be happy i keep on thinking that it might backfire soon and then im scared of losing the things that give me reason to be happy
are there people who suffer the same thing? or people that can give tips on dealing with this?
2006-09-17 11:01:35 · 10 answers · asked by fairy_without_boots 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
to the retired counselor yes i am depressed, im already doing therapy
i was just wanting some brief tips
2006-09-17 11:11:20 · update #1
yes, other people go thru this - but, I would like you to know that - being "Happy" IS a choice. We choose to be happy, or NOT to be happy.
Maybe it would help if you thought of it this way. Happiness is an attitude.
Now, if you want a few reasons why you might be choosing to NOT be happy:
~because NOT being happy serves a purpose for you. What purpose does it serve??
other reasons for being "un"happy:
~control
~guilt
~drama (some just prefer drama to reality)
~form of control - issues/lack of control - issues...
~self punishment
~self neglect
~a way for you to get attention from others
~lack of direction/passion in your life...
try this: just ACT like you think a "happy" person would act, or, like YOU would be acting IF you were really HAPPY! (just for a day or so, maybe even a week), and see how different it feels. then compare it w/ the way you've been feeling. What's the difference?
{Happy -------------verses--------- "UN"Happy]
I felt good-------(how / about what?)-------I felt sad
ppl treated me better-------(how?)-------ppl ignore me
I look/feel younger---------------------------I look/feel old
I feel hopeful-------(in what way?)-------I feel hopeless
just try it...
2006-09-17 11:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by LMAO! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I've come to realize that happiness is a choice though. You have to choose to be happy and you choose what you allow to affect your happiness. Don't dwell on things to make you happy, just live your life to the fullest and choose that you're gonna be happy no matter what.
2006-09-17 11:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by Nico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many people suffer from this...it is called depression. I suggest that you do yourself a favor and seek professional help. They can help you uncover why you feel this way, and teach you skills to cope with it. I suffered for years from depression and a friend guided me to a counselor. I am grateful to this day.
Best wishes.
2006-09-17 11:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
" happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory..":
"The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do..something to love and something to hope for."
":Action may not always bring happiness but there is no happiness without happiness."
some quotes to let you know that we all as humans yearn for bliss and happiness.. and as humans we are worried the next second what may take it away..
if keeping your positive lists in your head, counting your blessings each night does not help with your anxiety over losing your happiness..you may need a dr.s help..
but please know we all struggle inside to find our own oasis in this world and it is alot of effort to grab at it.. but once you know yourself, are true to yourself.. the amazing happiness will follow you all the days of your life
good luck and god bless
2006-09-17 11:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by staciesweet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what might happen. You have no control over it. Just be happy and let the bad thoughts go.
2006-09-17 11:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can your superstition take your happiness away from you? Better not. Enjoy life. You have a reason to be happy. You will live a long life being happy.
2006-09-17 11:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ FairLady ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's what I always thought that it would back fire but it never did, the best advice I can give you is don't be scared and good things will happen if you let them
2006-09-17 11:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by tcm. :) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's "Happiness"
try spell check
2006-09-17 11:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry; be happy
and BTW, Fairies wear boots (ya gotta believe it)
2006-09-17 11:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by TheDoctor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg sammee mannn, well i am scared wat will happen next, and of the future
2006-09-17 11:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋