Me and my g/f have been together for 3-1/2 years now,i've went in debt to have us a stable home,i want her to have anything within my power to get for her.I love her so damn much-BUT she misses her home state and want's to move there.She's from california,and i am from georgia.I was born here and have never moved anywhere else-i can't see myself in a big city like that.So my question is do i just let her go,or do i pack up and move with her,and sell the home we're in now? I would feel so out of place there.!!!!!!
2006-09-17 11:01:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
uh larry i am a female
2006-09-17 11:08:11 · update #1
It sounds like the relationship is really serious and you really love her, SO DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT LETTING HER GET AWAY!
The fact that you're questioning letting her go makes me wonder how strong the relationship though...
2006-09-17 11:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation to face. Are you entirely sure that the relationship is stable? I'm hoping that she isn't using this as a means of "jumping ship". Have you discussed this with a close friend (one who can keep your confidence)?
It sounds like you have already done so much to try to secure the relationship. And what about employment? If you don't have a job to go to in CA, I would say not to move. You have a lot on the line, with the mortgage and all, and then there will also be relocating expenses, trying to find a place in LA, etc. And unless you love driving on freeways everyday, you might regret moving there.
Since you have done so much, do you feel that she is also contributing equally, or are you doing more than she? You have to look out for yourself, you know. Don't let yourself be used. That's why I suggest talking to someone you can trust, in person.
Good luck. I really wish you the very best. I can only imagine what you be feeling.
2006-09-17 18:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by SB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you two simply taken a vacation to CA where she'd like to live? I wouldn't just sell the house and follow 'cause the relationship is about both of you. That said, her happiness is just as important as yours. Go visit CA with her to see what it is that she misses. Sometimes the memory is better than the reality. Other times, the reality is better than where you're presently living. It's a huge state. Some parts are really great - the coast is mostly rural as is the north, SF Bay Area has a city/rural mix depending where you live, central valley gets pretty red neck, LA is well smoggy, San Diego's supposed to be real nice - haven't been down that way in years. Most all of it is expensive.
2006-09-17 18:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i used to live in ca, but it all depends where u move to, there are some parts that are just like the east coast. but a word to the wise, it is soooo much more expensive out there, and i dont know where you would be going, so just remember, it is expensive and it is also very secular and worldy. i enjoyed it but i only lived there for three and half years, so it can be good in little doses, and i know what you mean, i was born in mn, and it is very hard for someone who wasnt born in ca to enjoy living there as much
2006-09-17 18:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by blank 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, try talking to your girlfriend again and really explaining to her that you would hate to uproot and just move away to a huge place like California. Try to come to some agreement where you too could go on 2 extended vacations to her hometown per year. that way, that way both of you are being satisfied.
2006-09-17 18:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by thickcarmelgoddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move. i was born in california. and let me tell you i HATE big cities. they annoy me. but not all of Cali is city. i love it. i live in Ohio right now, but as soon as i'm done with college i'm moving back to CA. i'm sure you'll love it.
p.s. i think you should ask your parents or friends what you should do....not random strangers on the internet. lol
2006-09-17 18:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do ya love her?
If you do try her way of life for a while, you might just like it...if not try a compromise,
Relationships are about compromise and sacrifice
2006-09-17 18:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by bopddbop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her to the curb. Women are like busses- theres a new one comeing by every 10 to 15 minutes anyway.
On the other hand, if you haven't gotten married by now you're not going to marry this woman anyway so break up with her now.
OR- be a man, marry her, and YOU need to go to HER state and live there for awhile- YOU need to leave the peach trees, and the pecan tree's, and Fort Gordon, and YOU need to understand HER culture, HER background, so YOU can understand HER if you want a lifelong commitment
2006-09-17 18:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
georgia and santa monica look alike a little bit...or maybe Pasadena...old Los angeles style...
2006-09-17 18:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Charge up yer batteries.
Or find a new one - lickedy-split.
2006-09-18 07:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by george_the_cat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋