Yes I am a nerd. Big time. I am a nerd because I like to hang out on the computer all the time, I play world of warcraft, design and develop websites for a living, I love sci-fi, the list goes on. Oh, yeah, I have had one girlfriend in my entire life, and I am 25. Upon relfection of my lifestyle, it baffles even me how I got this way. I think that I am just severely anti-social in nature, and would prefer to do things that involved me, and me alone, hence all the nerdy activities that I very frequently indulge in. It wasn't always like this. At one point I had plenty of friends to hang out with, we partied all the time, but it got to a point where some friends said I was "too clingy, too needy". I thought, "Ok then, I'll cut the cord". So I wasn't so clingy and needy anymore. Now, after much time has passed since then, lo and behold I HAVE NO FRIENDS. I bacame too fiercely independant, and people just stopped contacting me. New people I meet just have no interest in me. Any advice?
2006-09-17 10:45:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
25, youre young enough to start over. Back up to the point where you changed. We choose to be what we are and you let others dictate what youve become today. Okay you have a career field that today isnt no longer considered nerdy and its amazing just how many businesses and people (females too) that are in real need of someone like you with your skills. Now you just need to change your social life or all work makes you a boring young man. See the picture. Use your talent to meet new people or help others. Love appears when you least expect it and in mysteriousily places. You just need to know when to turn the shop talk off, and discover the world out there. You can do it easier than you realize. Good luck
2006-09-17 10:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.
Really when you think of it, it's not the number of friends you have, but the quality of friends. You can have only one or two, but that can be just as good as someone who has like 10 acquaintance type friends.
Try and find some that have common interests with you.
Maybe don't spend as much time on the computer, it can start to make you a little more anti-social.
Nerds get a lot farther in life than some of the "cool guys" anyway. So don't worry about being a nerd, or what happened in the past. Just be yourself, get out of the house more.
2006-09-17 17:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Windseeker_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well depending on your looks u could just stop doing what u do and start living like the “popular” people-dress, walk, talk, look, and act like them. I’m really popular and I can tell u that it isn’t a easy job being well like by every one u get ur ups and ur downs believe me.
I hade to give up every thing I stand for and that I use to like and I spend most of my free time looking at fashion and style to see what is “in”, if u really want to be like the popular people u have to hang out with them and see ur self as better then any one ells or u won’t make it
2006-09-17 17:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by merry meet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you weren't like this all the time, ask yourself why your friends said you're "too needy or clingy"? also start going out more. meet new people at work or any social clubs that you might want to get into. besides, you're not a nerd. you sound like a loner. and just because your friends said you were too needy or clingy, you just decided to cut off everyone else instead of figuring out what they meant. you might want to see a counselor.
2006-09-17 17:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Chris E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online sex chat. If your such a big nerd then just call one of those phone sex lines. OR you could go outside and be with the 3-dimensional people. Get a tan, get in shape, get rid of any acne you have and go out and hit the town, or wherever you live. Go hit the night clubs and party its the easiest way to get friends and more. No bringing your +1 mace though.
2006-09-17 17:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and start meeting new people. remember to have a friend u need to a friend first. So check yourself. Do you close yourself down and not let anyone get to know you because your afraid of rejection?? Life is all about taking risks. your not always going to be able to please everyone and remember to always make room for people to make mistakes. Let people get to know you, join a group of people that have the same interest as you.. and be sociable, friendly and down to earth. Im sure you'll find good friends :)
2006-09-17 18:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by laural8477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get out and do more things and find some new friends. I'm sure there are clubs and such where you live. I'm sure you have things in common with other people. You seem intelligent and should not have any problems. Good Luck
2006-09-17 17:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself available...let people know that you do want to be social. When your doing whatever it is that you do (no offence) find people who enjoy those kinds of things too!
2006-09-17 17:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋