I have an acquaintance that I know through a friend. It is someone I greatly admire. She is going through a rough time, her business fell apart. I sent her an email offering my support and as she responded, it became several emails.
Anyway, I fear I may have become too familiar, acting as if we were old friends. As I said I admire her, I would love it if we were friends! She never made me feel like I was bothering her, she was always nice...but still...
The bigger issue...I offered to help her with her failing business. I was genuine in my offer. But I am afraid it may have been inappropriate and well I know little to nothing about her business! She is aware that I know nothing about her business. So now I may have offended her AND I look like an idiot!
My question is...should I send one last email apologizing for this to try to sooth things over and hope time will ease the awkwardness? Or should I just let things be for now...and learn from my mistakes?
2006-09-17 10:29:52 · 5 answers · asked by starrzfan 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You probably did this with good intentions but you have let it get out of hand and maybe there have been opportunities before now to tone your contact down but you haven't because you like her. I would arrange to meet her and level with her. Tell her you want to continue your friendship but you may not be able to support her with her business as you know nothing about it and do not want to start something you may not be able to see through. You never know she may be aware of this already but just appreciates the encouragement you are giving her. You can see where you go from there. This could be just as good an opportunity for you. You have already said you like her company and you find it easy to be familiar with her. Talk straight with her first.
2006-09-17 12:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could contact her and tell her that if there is anything she needs you would be willing to help her. Tell her she may need to tell you just what to do since you really arent all that savy on her business. But I think simply being there in her time of need is more help than you know at this point. Just keep being a good friend! She appreciates that in you..........and most of all.......RELAX!
2006-09-17 17:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd drop it. She is probably grateful for your support, but won't expect help if she knows you can't.
It's much like writing in a sympathy card to "call if you need anything". Both parties understand it as an offer of moral support, nothing more.
2006-09-17 17:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you meant it no. i love it when people say o drop by when your in the area you need not call . and when you do they are shocked . or the line we really must get together and it never happens and your line of help was just that wasn't it..........
2006-09-17 17:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or you could just grow a backbone and get over it. I mean...that's what I'd do.
2006-09-17 19:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋