Is this worth dying for?

Question

I'm really depressed about this. I don't have any confidence in bed at all because of this. I'm really emabarassed to show it to my girl. I'm good looking (compared to most guys). None of my ex's seen my penis cause I don't want them to know about it. Sometimes I just think of why God gave this to me.. I mean we only live once so why the hell do I have to suffer from this? I'm a very sexual person but my little thing depresses me. I don't know what to do. I feel like my life is ruined since the day I was born. I'm 4.75 inches by the way.. any advice and pls don't give me that motion in the ocean or learn how to use it crap because I heard it so many times yet women laugh at men that are not well endowed

Answer 1

It's too bad that you let something this inconsequential depress you so terribly. A woman who loves you won't care what you're hung like. She fell in love with you, not with an organ. You're worrying about this stuff a hell of a lot more than any woman would ever worry about it. Here's something a lot more women are turned off by than a small unit: poor self-esteem. And is it worth dying for? Hell, no.

Answer 2

Is that 4.75 erect? Listen, all it really has to do is to reach the G-spot, which is only 1 or 2 inches up, so yours is long enough to do that. I think men are much more into length competition than women. Men and women who are very shallow laugh at things, like any thing, glasses, noses, whatever,, they think it makes themselves seem superior. But a man or woman who really loves someone doesn't laugh. I tend to dress down because I don't want the attentions of superficial guys.
It is best, all around for everyone, for all guys not to show it too soon, ya know what I mean? Build a good relationship first, and then, when it is time to show it it is going to be very special to the one you love and who loves you, and you won't be so self conscious.
Meanwhile, don't take the male penis length competition seriously,, that's just a guy thing, and kind of adolescent.

Oh, and the 'learn how to use it' thing? That's just true. *winks* there are positions that maximize the feeling, and ones that minimize a too large penis,, yes,, the ones who talk about their 10 inchers are scary cuz that can be painful.

Answer 3

The vaginal canal is about 7-8 inches in most women. The first two inches contain most of the nerve endings, and the clitoris. These are the areas that the male has to stimulate to bring a woman to orgasm. A penis 4 inches or longer is certainly adequate to do this. You can also use your fingers and tongue to stimulate your partner.

Many men seem to think that vaginal penetration is the only way to have sex and please a woman. Actually most women enjoy a variety of stimulation methods, and will be fine if you don't have vaginal intercourse.

You are more than equipped - but your low self-esteem either stems from watching too much porn (where the men are selected because they are mostly way above average in size) or because you have been told at some point you were inadequate. Either way, some counselling sessions may prove valuable in helping you understand that your body is normal and your fears are irrational.

A woman will typically form an emotional bond with a man based on his personality, not his physique - if you are a kind, caring and loving man, there will be many women interesting in forming such a bond with you.

Answer 4

My first boyfriend was smaller than you, and also very good-looking. He had an extremely active sex life, was very popular with women, had a lot of confidence, and was good in bed. This isn't crap, it's the truth. He chose his partners carefully to suit his smaller size, and if someone said he was a bit small, he told them to get stuffed, or made a joke about it.

If you haven't shown any of your girlfriends your penis, how do you know women will laugh at you? Any woman who laughs at a man sexually is a dog, and not worth bothering about.

Besides, you are only a tiny bit smaller than average - you're a small average, not small.

Really, stop being depressed and get some confidence. The minute you sleep with someone who loves you and loves your penis, you will feel completely different about it.

Answer 5

i've never ever met a woman who laughed at a guy with a short dick, and that's the honest truth. the following might surprise you, but a lot of women, including me, don't even look at it to any large extent. it's not there to be looked at, y'know, it's there to be used. question - has any woman ever laughed at you, or have you just heard that somewhere? and, btw, 4.75 inches is not overly short. the average length of the erect penis in western males is about 5.5 inches, so you're not much below average. you could get a phalloplasty i guess, there are plastic surgeons out there doing that, but really there is no point, as your little johnny is basically fine. i read some serious self-esteem issues in your question, so you'd probably do better investing the money you'd spend on surgery in counselling. and, btw, the massive penises you see on porn sites, penis enlargement sites etc. are mostly photoshopped, if you look at the pictures closely you can see it. furthermore, a big one is a serious turn off, it's intimidating and it hurts.

Answer 6

The 'average' is like 5 inches, and you don't sound that small to be honest. If it was too much bigger it would probably hurt some females. Girls do not care as much about penis size as you think, as long as you can make a girl feel good about herself and treat her well you will be fine.
Your insecurity will be a bigger turn off that your size. Trust me. Just act like you own a stallion and you'll fool girls into thinking that as well. If you stay upset and complain about your size, girls will probably be turned off by your insecurity than someone who was proud of it. It's really not that big of a deal to be honest..
I don't really know what you are implying about dying for.. but god no, this is nothing that serious. At all.

Answer 7

No it isn't worth dying for. Have you spoke to your doctor about this? There is some treatment you can have.

But it is true about the size doesn't matter but what you do with it. Sure some girls care about size but girls dont like massive penises because they really hurt us. A lot. Picture a cucumber being forced through something the size of the pupil in your eye and you will get the idea. Painful.

Anyway stop beating yourself up so much about it. Speak to your partner and if she says stop worrying then stop worrying.

Answer 8

well, you could try a penis pump to enlarge the size of your erect penis... it also depends on the woman, how wide she is... if she is quite wide, then sometimes a smaller penis just slides out and doesn't stay in all of the time... which can be frustrating for a woman as well... so i'm not sure how to help with your situation... i guess you will just have to wait and find a girl who you are compatible with and will be sexually gratifying for the both of you... also, a real woman won't care about the size of your penis... especially if you're a great person and always remember, ecstacy can be provided in many ways, not just through intercourse... these other ways are usually more pleasurable for a woman anyways.... but just don't think terribly upon yourself, it's not your fault, and like you said, you are a great looking guy... nobody is perfect.... and i sure know that i would much rather have a gorgeous man that treats me right with an average sized penis, than some mediocre looking man who treats me poorly with a large one!!!!

Answer 9

Truthfully, I don't see why you are upset. To be honest, most women run when they see a well endowed male. It's frighening. A woman can only accomodate so much and anything more is just a waste and can be physically painful. Make due with what you have and do not be depressed. It is what it is. Honest, it is not worth dying for.

Answer 10

The average penis size is 5 inches, so you are right there!
I can't speak for all women, but size *REALLY* is not important.
Also, every woman is different sized too. So I wouldn't stress. And it's certainly NOT something to be depressed about.