i have lost the boy i love and in the same time a very good friend. things can't be the same any more. i don;t feel people around me anymore , or even events. i have friends, but this could not get me through. i have no more desires in life. just to be at peace. i don;t want to get up in the morning, during the day i remember the past with him, and in the evening i can;t go to sleep. it;s like things are passing me and i am not capable of feeling anything. i am numb. please help ....
2006-09-17 10:14:49 · 22 answers · asked by Gabitzu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-09-17 10:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ylia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are suffering from severe depression, which is quite normal under the circumstances. Some people are lucky, in that they can bounce back from traumatic events quickly, other people need more time, and still others require professional counselling to help them recover psychologically. To me, it sounds like you might be a person that requires a skilled professional to help you through this situation. I strongly suggest that you seek psychological counselling to help you recover from your grief. There is no stigma attached to seeking this kind of help anymore. Every year, tens of millions of people do it, mainly with positive results. If you're not sure who to see, speak to your doctor, minister or school counsellor. There may also be a telephone number for a crisis counsellor in the inside front pages of your local telephone directory. Please don't suffer silently by yourself. Seek help now, before your depression gets any worse. Good luck to you. I wish you the best.
2006-09-17 10:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that things haven't gone so well for you. You probably don't want to hear from old people, especially when they say they've already been through this horrible heartbreak stuff.
But have some faith in yourself, your hidden secret center. You can make it through this. Millions have, and you're well equiped. There's lots of life ahead. Have courage. This too, shall pass.
My only regrets about heartbreaks was that I wasted so much time on them in the first place.
Be strong. You're important to the future, and to all the people who will love you, and you will love, in the future.
XXXOOO XXXOOO, been there, got the T-shirts, if you don't have some pain and misery and regrets and emotional scars in life, then you haven't been getting out of bed in the morning.
2006-09-17 10:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Boomer Wisdom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will get better with time. I know that's hard to believe when you're in the midst of the initial despair, but it really will get better. Virtually every human being (myself included) has to go through the loss of loved ones at some time in their lives, so if they can live through it and go on to eventually have a happy life again, so can you.
However, in the meantime if you're really depressed....enough that you are thinking of harming yourself.....please find yourself a good counselor to help you out until the pain eases a bit.
2006-09-17 10:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are focused on yourself. That's the problem... you're focused on how unhappy you are, on the terrible things that have happened to you... and all your energy is being focused on negative things... If I was you I would keep myself HOPEFUL remembering that this is just a stage and meanwhile I would take a ride out of my bubble and focus on other people needs... maybe you can join a group of help or help the members of your family, your classmates and this will distract you from your current gloomy status... plus... you could meet some new people while doing this.
2006-09-17 11:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Royal Flush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lost? Death or breaking up? Either way severe Depression is still the same. Options: Antidepressant and/ or with counseling, continue to force your self to "live" and find the reasons. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you try or do, it just takes time to heal, but an antidepressant will help you through the worst of times.
2006-09-17 10:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by MEDUSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ride it out for awhile. That is a lot of loss at one time. You sound depressed so if you cant pull yourself out of it in a few weeks go to your Dr's or better yet get a shrink. A good one will help you A LOT!!
Call an old friend. Make an effort to connect to some compassionate person who can support you!
2006-09-17 10:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your situation. I know you can overcome those painful moments. First of all ,avoid staying alone.Always be with your friends or relatives for sometime. If you stay alone, the memory of your love ones will overwhelm you and make you sad. If possible make new friends or watch a movie , do anything to keep your mind occupied. Remember "time heals all wound".
2006-09-17 10:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by The Inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get out and do something fun with your friends or family. Maybe, it'll help take your mind off of him. I went through the same thing, but i just grew to hate the boy.
2006-09-17 10:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you actually loose him, such as him dying? of did you just break up? cuz if you broke up, than just move on, but if he died, friends and family are going to be there for you through all your bad times, let them in so they can help you see this through. they are there to love, care and console. im sorry for your troubling times, but remember, there is an answer to everything, and you will see light again. there are people here in your life who love you. let yourself see that. talk, cry, vent. and lead a healthy, happy life again with the help of not only your friends, but yourself, too.
2006-09-17 10:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Brittney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound depressed.If this persists see you family doctor for a referal or some temporary medication. It is difficult to loose someone you care about so much. Give youself permision to grieve a little while than throw your self into some social activities.
2006-09-17 10:23:28 · answer #11 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋