im 5 1/2 months pregnant and my boyfriend and i have decided to split up as its not working out between us, we were together for 16 months, i know ive gotta be strong fo rmy baby but at the same time i still want his dad, even after all the arguments and stuff i still love him and didnt want to lose him even though we both know its for the best i just dont know how i can carry on without him, its like we cant be together but we cant be without each other.
2006-09-17 10:14:24 · 4 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try to fill your time with baby related things, i no its a constant reminder of the babies dad, but all the time you're thinking about other things it gives you less time to dwell on the sad things.
Have you thought of names yet?
Have you planned how you would like your room, even if its just fitting everything in?
Have you thought about god parents or supporting adults?
You could try thinking about how you would like you "baby has arrived cards" to look, maybe make them yourself!
Probably all sounds a bit silly, but i think filling your time with positives is a good place to start!!
;O)
2006-09-18 07:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by sparklyheidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. I know how you feel too. I wish I had an answer for this. I'm still working on this too. I knew my ex-girlfriend and I had to split up too. It was hard for me at first, and I didn't take it well, I wrote too many letters, and said and did all the wrong things that forlorn lovers do. Its nearly impossible to love someone when they are in that state of mind, so I had to back away from that, which was the most difficult thing I had to do in my life. I had alot of pain and emotions to deal with and they brought up some childhood memories that aren't so good. The only advice I can really give, is try to pull yourself out of the relationship status, and then force yourself to believe that the relationship wasn't a total failure. That word alone makes you think you are one. So rather say, from this day foreward everything I do, is going to be a success! And I'm going to do my best to achieve that!
2006-09-17 17:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by The Lonely Skywolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a way. If you truly were in love- you will always love him. I thought I was gonna die when me and my x-wife split...every one tells ya time will heal...IT DON'T!!! I still love her and sometimes it clouds my thinking ( we are best friends again now) And I don't think I will ever love another like I loved (love) her!! and sometimes even now the pain and heartbreak verges on cripling and overwhelming , but life must go on!!! I wish I could give you a cure , or take away your pain but I can't... just do your best and take each day at a time... You were alive before you meet him- you can live without him ( AND I do know it feels like you can't !) but try for the baby and yourself!!! OK??? hit me up if ya need a shoulder to cry on...( you got me leaking now ...the pain never goes away...you just learn to live with it!!!)
2006-09-17 17:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that You still love him. Take some time and clear Your head at least 3-weeks then do some thinking and see how You feel then. I know it's not easy but try it.
2006-09-17 17:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by helix71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋