When I got married, she wanted to, and tried to move in with my husband and I after 3 months of marriage and we only had a one bedroom apartment? Is that fair? She will not work now that she broke my husband and I up,i got an apartment for her and live there too, she will not work and will not let me move out.
2006-09-17 10:09:45 · 11 answers · asked by Mercury5_7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Payback? So, peaches, you saying its not right for a parent to take care of their children? okay, that makes real sense, NOT!!!!!
2006-09-17 10:14:24 · update #1
Take control of your life. You are not always going to please people just like they are not always going to please you. If they resort to guilt tactics, let them. Both can play that game.
2006-09-17 10:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is not about being fair, it's about life. You don't owe her anything, doesn't matter if she raised you or took care of you. She's your mother, and it was a responsibility that cost her money, but that's what she should've thought of before she had you. Look, its one thing to take care of them after they've taken care of you, it's another for them to be leeches...This?? With her moving in with you?? Not right. Not right at all. It's not only invading your right to your privacy with your husband. Give her a deadline to find a job, that if she doesn't find one, that you'll give her a certain amount of money, and she has a decision on what to do with that money, but not to count on you for shelter. And what do you mean won't let you move out...areyou on a shackle??? That's devastating that she broke up you and your husband. It's stressful to live with a parent, talk with her, in a stern way about how things will turn out. Good luck, and Take care. Remember... Maybe you do owe her because she raised you, but the sense in which it means...is entirely different than what she wants...(she wants to be spoiled)
2006-09-17 17:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is reasonable and fair to expect your mother to work and share the load. Is she even looking for work? She might actually enjoy a new life.
However finding a job later in life won't be easy. I tried it after raising three kids as a stay at home mom. My office skills were outdated and the competition was much younger by then. Age discrimination is illegal, but it still happens and is hard to prove.
So, I became self-employed as a babysitter. Hard work and little pay. My husband is still the main breadwinner.
Good luck.
2006-09-17 17:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to set some rules and boundries for your mom and you and your husbands relationship needs to be off limits and if she is doing anything to affect that she needs to be made aware. . . There is a difference in taking care of your parents when they are not able to anymore and someone free loading off of you. Take charge of YOUR life while you still can !
2006-09-17 17:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet_Pea2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your mom feel she has no skills to return to work? Talk to her. She might fear working if she hasn't worked in many years. It's harder to go back to work if you haven't done it. She probably would love to work, have a social life once she tries it. Talk to her. Ask her about job training, school, temp services to try a short term job. She'll probably feel better about herself too.
2006-09-17 17:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Grow a spine.Get a family member to help you, and go get your husband back.
2006-09-17 17:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by triniqueen40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will tell your mom u will not live with and u will work and if u don't we are going to get kick out cause i am work working to
2006-09-17 17:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Candycane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your mother feels it pay back time for all the time she has taken care of you it's your time to take care of her
2006-09-17 17:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF SHE IS COLLECTING SOME KIND OF SSI PAYMENTS THEN SHE NEEDS TO HELP OUT THAT WAY ..
2006-09-17 17:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by www.thehunkofaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her to the curb
2006-09-17 17:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by bigbob33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋