A new friend passed by me and after staying very late he asked to spend the night, I have one king size bed so it was big enough for both of us.
In the morning, I woke up feeling his hand touching my hard penis over my shorts. It was very gentle as he didn't want to wake me up...
I slowly turned around and gave him my back...
I don't deny that it was an arousing experience for me and I masturbated once he left my home...
Tomorrow he'll come to my place again... What if he stays the night and does the same? How should I react?
2006-09-17 09:41:35 · 24 answers · asked by Lovely 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Speak to him about what happened last night stay and decide based on the outcome of the conversation and how you'll feel...
2006-09-17 09:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by toon 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact that it was nonconsentual raises some concerns; I would probably confront him about it. Especially if you don't think you want to experiment / persue this with him (doesn't mean you can't experiment later with someone else who's less creepy). If you don't really think it's a big deal (you don't sound very offended by it; as a gay man, I still probably would be), and if it is something you wanted to persue, I'd probably still be a little more blunt about it. Or start on him.
2006-09-18 01:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look! If you like it you like it, and that doesn't require you to be gay. Just go with it, unless you find it repulsive.
There are JO buddies out there who are not Gay.
Be prepared to state, "I am not Gay" when the appropriate time comes. Keep your message simple and to the point.
If you find your friend's activity repulsive, then you should address this matter. Again, keep your message simple and to the point.
If you want to maintain the friendship, keep that clear too.
Don't make this a bigger issue than it really is.
2006-09-17 17:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him know you are straight and that it would be 'uncomfortable' if there was any accidental contact - so could he please make sure he stays on his side of the bed.
In any case, turning your back on him should have told him you weren't interested, so hopefully he'll respect you enough not to try anything again.
2006-09-17 18:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask in a nice, non threatening way if he is gay and explain the details of what happened the night before during the "sleep over".
2006-09-17 16:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't plan on a reaction. Are you comfortable with him? Are you curious? It's natural to be curious. Do what feels good. As long as you can look yourself in the mirror the next day and be comfortable with who you see - go for it.
2006-09-17 16:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it wasn't primarily because he was gay that he did that. Not all gay people violate other people's spaces like that. It was because he was an inconsiderate human that he was touching your body without permission.
You should react however you feel safest.
2006-09-17 16:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you are straight? You sound a little Bi-curious to me...why not explore that side of your nature and see if it brings you happiness? Some people are not straight or bi or gay...some simply follow their attraction...no matter what gender or orientation their desire is.
2006-09-17 16:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He is your friend...
talk to him...
tell him how you feel...
If you are truly friends you 2 can talk about this..
take things slow and remember why your friends in the first place
2006-09-17 17:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by bopddbop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid...play like you are asleep through the whole thing...Not very bright to have turned over, was it? And, if you would stop inviting him over, this wouldn't happen..how many times did you have to invite him to get this far????
2006-09-17 17:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋