My ex has to provide insurance on kids. He has recently made a dental appointment for the kids and now he says that I am responsible for the out of pocket expenses. The way we have been working out the doctor bills is that whomever makes the appointments/admits pays the bill. I also found out why he wants me to....the insurance only covers up to $1000 per child. both of my children needs dental work. The total that the dentist compiled for me will cost me over $6000 out of pocket fees. I just don't think it is fair that my ex wants to make appointments on his own and then have me pay for them. What do you think?
2006-09-17 09:17:22 · 17 answers · asked by vijotay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remind you, he is making all of the appointments and taking them without my knowledge.
2006-09-17 09:25:40 · update #1
My ex pays less than $100 for insurance for him and the children.
2006-09-17 09:28:34 · update #2
I have full custody of the children.
2006-09-17 10:07:05 · update #3
he should, and if it become an argument point try splitting the cost, just for the sake of the kids
2006-09-17 09:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by ed46324 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that stuff should be spelled out in your settlement. And if it isn't then you may have to go back to court if you two can't work out an agreement.
To prevent him from scheduling all these doctors appointments, get him to agree that all expenses not covered by the exiting coverage be split. This way he has too pay too.
I'm sure that some of the dental work can be postponed until the next year when his insurance coverage kicks in again. Find out what the appointments are for and if it isn't absolutely necessary have the appointments cancelled until the next year.
Just my thoughts.....
2006-09-17 09:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Tony 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to rethink your divorce agreements
1st of all he should have ask you if you can affort that kind of money
and 2nd he should have ask you to share not to carry the hold ammount
because if you he told you in the first place you could have said let find find out if another dentist can do the work for a cheaper rate
Now he will make sure your children know you are the buy guy
when actually he is being sneaky
You need to go to the dentist the next appt and find out what is needed to be done and is the work nessecary
since he wants you to pay you need to have a say so in the dentist that is used
2006-09-17 09:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong wrong wrong wrong.. the medical bills that arent covered by the inurance are split 50/50 ..
And Usually "not always" but usually the man is cut a small break in the child support for paying the medical insurance..as they add that in when computing how much the father owes in child support..
YOUR GETTING SCREWED.. all he has to do is make the appts but then u have to take the kids , go through the hassels of all the appts , then pay for it? lol are u blonde? lol sorry couldnt help it lol.. So cancel the appts and make new ones that he has to pay for if ur going to keep this kind of arrangement lol..
my x husband pays the insurance, then anything that isnt covered through the insurance we have to split 50/50
my husband now and his x wife, are suppose to split all costs 50/50 cost of insurance, and cost of what isnt covered.. so what he does is he pays the full coverage as its taken out of his paycheck monthly, and then she pays any medical bills in full untill she exceeds the amount of what her half of the insurance would be then he pays for half of it there after.. so for example if he pays 80.00 a month for insurance, her half would of been 40.00 so 40 x 12 is 480.00 per year.. so anything above 480.00 a year he pays half thats not covered under insurance..
WAIT WAIT WAIT.. hold the phone.. Just read ur last comments about he's taking them to appts with out your knowledge????? Do u have custody or does he????? If he has custody then he can take them to as many appts as he wants with out your knowledge.. if u have custody then how is he doing this with out your knowledge??? But either way the bills not covered by the insurance should ALWAYS be 50/50
2006-09-17 09:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much does insurance cost him a month for your children. Before my hubby went into the navy for the 3 of us it costed him a little over $400 every month . If that is the case then yes it is fair that you have to pay the out of pocket expenses. He can't pay for everything for the kids for you.
Edit Well then tell your husband to get better insurance other wise he should buck up and pay half.
2006-09-17 09:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would seem fair to me that both of you should split the out of pocket expenses between yourselves. If that is a problem for you then cancel the appointments until both of you can come to an agreement on how to split the costs. Would it be possible for you get state aid for the remainder of the costs? It is worth looking into.
Good luck
2006-09-17 09:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are living, but in Texas you have to pay half of the bill unless you can prove that there is no reason why he can't take the child to a doctor that is covered in the plan. All medical bills are split in half irregardless of who pays for the insurance. Believe me... I know first hand how it is to deal with an uncooperative X. Not Fun!!
2006-09-17 09:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by PoePoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He pays it. It is on his insurance and bill. He makes appt, he takes the kids, on his insurance, he pays it.
Pretty much keep the agreement.
The only thing I see a reason for him to want you to pay this expense is because he doesn't want to pay that high price so he rather pin the high price on you as he pins the low cost on him.
Pretty much is what it seems he is trying to do. I wouldn't go for that. He make appts, with out knowledge at that, he pays.
If it comes a battle, opt to split cost in half and have it documented.
2006-09-17 10:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read your degree and if you don't understand it get your attorney to explain it to you. Most child support agreements call for the noncustodial parent to maintain insurance on the children and then the parents are to split the out of pocket expenses in half. If he does not comply with such a degree he will be in contempt of court a fairly serious charge.
2006-09-17 09:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this case, the divorce decree should state that childrens medical bills will be split equally among the parents. If not,then the courts will decide this way. One of the fun parts of having kids
2006-09-17 09:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he made the appointment then he should pay for all expenses not covered by the insurance and if you make an appointment then you should pay all expenses not covered by the insurance... i think that is fair, or you pay half and he pays half if you both have agreed to the appointment......
2006-09-18 13:51:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋