I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he comes to my house and visits porn sites while I am asleep, and I've seen porn videos in his house. I've already expressed to him that it makes me uncomfortable and its disrespectful. I don't understand why he needs porn when he has me. What should I do?
2006-09-17 09:10:51 · 14 answers · asked by lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he thinks it is alright for him to watch it now it isn't going to change when you get married. (Trust me personal experience) Tell him its you or the porn. If he picks the porn your better off with out him
2006-09-17 09:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the skinny, all those 100lb blonde tan girls have boyfriends/husbands, and believe it or not, they watch porn! You could be the hottest girl in the world and your boyfriend would still watch porn, so if it bothers you, dont blame the way you look, he is just being a man, and we women do it too, and he obviously likes sex(a good thing) You would not want a man who hides it from you, this is the ones you cant trust.
2016-03-27 06:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not always a bad thing for him to watch porn. I used to get angry at my boyfriend for doing that, but when he explained to me why he does it, it doesn't bother me anymore. A lot of guys, who have girlfriends/wives, watch porn because they want to try different positions with their woman. They are not necessarily interested in the porn stars themselves, but more so what positions they are in. Guys who truly love their girlfriends/wives don't find these women sexy, but use them as a learning tool/aid to make their sex lives more interesting. If you are getting it the same way all the time, you will eventually get bored. Lighten up, because your boyfriend is probably trying to spice up your sex life so it doesn't get boring. However, if that is not his intention, then you both need to sit down and have a very serious conversation about the topic and decide where you should go based on the outcome.
By the way, it wouldn't hurt if you watched the porn with him. That way, you wouldn't have to feel like he's doing it behind your back and you can see what he sees. As well, asking him why he does it would probably make you understand it better.
2006-09-17 09:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by soccernj13 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Watching porn is a very normal thing. Viewing porn isn't the problem. Porn becomes a problem when it is used by a man (or woman) to replace sexual intimacy with their partner.
If you feel since he's been viewing this porn that he's giving you less attention and doesn't want to be sexual with you, then you'll have to explain to him he has to choose you or the porn.
If you're still having amazing and frequent sex with your boyfriend, then the porn isn't effecting your sexual relationship, and therfor you'll have to get over your insecurity.
2006-09-17 09:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let him use your computer if you don't like what he looks at. and no it is not okay for him to do what he is. It disrespect towards you .He is replacing you with porn. If you feel strongly about not liking it then tell him. If he gets angry then oh well . Tell him to get his own computer and watch it at his place and don't while with you. be tough.
2006-09-17 09:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By looking at porn sites he is sending you a message that your not pretty enough I don't think that's fair to u so dump that freak and move on please for sake.
2006-09-17 09:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up -- it's no big deal. Guys are wired that way. If that is your biggest issue with him, then you're lucky. Let him look at porn, and perhaps even join him from time to time.
2006-09-17 09:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have told him it makes you uncomfortable and he continues to do this I'd get another boyfriend. Obviously he doesn't care about your feelings.
2006-09-17 09:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the porn...it could become a part of foreplay for you & your boyfriend. You may find fun & interesting positions that you never thought of before....
2006-09-17 09:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by brody 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is normal.
Would you prefer dating a priest? I guarantee you would get bored.
2006-09-17 09:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by El Gringo 237 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋