-Close the cabinet drawers and doors that she opens
-Turn the lights off when she leaves the room
-Stop putting things on chair seats
-Stop setting things on the floor directly in front of chairs
-Throw away old food before it rots
-Change a light bulb when she notices that it has burned out
Does anyone think that a reward system might possibly work? If so, what should the reward(s) be?
2006-09-17 09:05:26 · 29 answers · asked by Schroder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband told me after 30 years. I really like it when the bed is made everyday. So now I make the bed everyday. He had not ever said anything before. I also think that thank-you goes a long way. Like the stuff she does do say thanks. Maybe she will try to do more things to get the positive feedback.
2006-09-17 09:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that the reason why this has been going on for 26 years was because you were the one putting her clutter away, changing the bulb, throwing away rotten food? If this is so, then it's you who deserve the reward. Plan an out of town trip for like 2 weeks with friends, don't take your wife with you. With you being out of the house, she will have to do that herself. Make sure before you go that there are burnt bulbs in a busy area in your house that need to be replaced. Have (clean) fun while you're away and when you come back, check out if she has done these things herself. Just in case you come home to mountains of stuffs on chair seats, stinking rotten food in the fridge and still burnt bulbs, then you can start having a serious talk with her on these issues. Good luck.
2006-09-17 16:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by marisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, they seem small, but when things bother us, they bother us, this is just the way we are. However, some of these things u might b able 2 help with??? so, the things that u can help with are...lets see....well, I only c 1 thing... get her a file cabinet or storage boxes or something thats handy for her to store things in...maybe 1 in each rm that she stores stuff in. The other things, I'm not sure, maybe u two can share 'chore days" ? or is there something in particular that u do for her? like with the car? or killing spiders or something? well, tell her that you will 'barter' for her services around the home...it might work! if nothing else, even after all these yrs, u 2 might still learn a few things about ne another and new ways to please each other. Congrats on being married for so long. I'd love to know how this turns out!
2006-09-17 16:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes a reward would be the ticket! Lets see if she turns off the light you could give her the .000001 cent she just saved you that day. If she gets rid of the food before it rots then she wont cook it for you for dinner. (kinda a reward for you too on that one) Maybe when she does your cookin cleanin ect you should buy her a ring as a rewrd as well! Gezz man if thats all you have to complain about after 26 years......HEY she should get a reward for that too!
2006-09-17 17:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the other things you said can be worked out if you ask her I'm sure, but changing a light bulb? Why should that solely be her job? Do you not feel a responsibility to help out like maybe the last two - food and light bulb?
2006-09-17 16:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing it ureself! did you marry her to clean the house or because you loved her, 26 years is a long time to wait for these things to be done why are you wanting this now? im sure she is bogged down that she forgets to do these things! as for the reward system, are you training a pet? or a small child? im sorry but maybe you need to talk to her explain how u are feeling, who knows maybe there is a perfectly good explanation.
Being perfect isnt easy is it?
2006-09-17 16:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by EMMA O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't..you have been married this long and you haven't found a way to cope with this petty crap yet? If these are the biggest complaints you can come up with in life I think you should count your blessings and quit looking for stuff to be unhappy about. You can ask her but it sounds like perhaps she does these things to tick you off because you are actually silly enough to complain about them...I would! LOL!
2006-09-17 16:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno. Can you tell me how to get the man I have been married to for 22 years to flush the toilet? Hang up the wet towels? That there is such a thing as a closet to put his shoes in, instead of lining them up against the fireplace hearth like marching soldiers, to be readily available to his needs instead of having to get up and get the pair he chooses, that the light does need to go off in the room when he leaves it, how to spread mayonaise, that socks all balled up in one ball needs to be seperated so that when I wash them it does get clean. I guess if you find out an answer for the common lady people.. let me know too. Good luck, and I really mean it too.
2006-09-17 16:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Your wife is not a dog you train. Reward system? God....consider yourself lucky to have a woman who would put up with you for 26 years.
2006-09-17 16:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married to her over 26 years and you are now griping about her bad habits. you let her do all that all these years .and didn't think much about it till now. You should of talked to her years ago if this stuff bothered you. reward system . ha ha . good one , she is your wife not a dog..
2006-09-17 16:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋