ok i need an answer i am so angry i work in the er and a woman brought her son?

Question

in she abused him i got so mad but other nurses said mabe she is having a hard time so what you dont beat your kid ok so am i the only one who gets this pissed sorry furious ?? let me know i swear the world has turned crazy

Answer 1

If you were to interfere, would that be the moral thing to do in the profession you've chosen? I'm not saying you do not have a right to be mad, but I think this time you just have to let it go unfortunately. If he comes back again in a similar situation, then you should call your local Family and Children Services.

Answer 2

I agree that world has turned crazy. If a child has been so abused that they have to be taken to an ER, there is no excuse for this. Stressed out or not, there is no reason to beat your child to a pulp. Sometimes a child pushes your buttons and you paddle them on the behind or some have even been know to slap their mouth or hit them in the head. I'm not talking anything serious and most people have been drawn to this anger by their kids. It doesnt make it right but it happens. But there is no excuse under God to hurt your child that your suppose to love and care for, like this. Children are gifts from God. If she is having that much stress than its time to put your kids somewhere safe and get some help. You are right to feel the way you do. Dont let those other nurses think you are wrong. And PLEASE make sure the authorities know about things like this. That may be the only chance for a mother or father and their child to get the help they so need.

Answer 3

Well, first things first -- thank God you still retain your compassion for other human beings. Medicine, like law or police work, often exposes people who work in it to the worst of human nature. As someone who's had to rely on nurses, doctors and technicians more often than I'd like, I'm grateful to anyone who works in the field and can still feel for sick and injured people, so thank you.

You don't have to make excuses, even in your mind, for someone who abuses a child. Report to the authorities, yes. Maybe this woman is having a hard time, but she has other choices rather than abusing her son.

You're not alone at all. Any thinking, feeling human being would be angry and concerned about this situation, feel helpless. If you've reported the incident, you've done what you can do - which, if you're a caring person, can be hard to accept. Know that everyone who feels compassion gets put in this spot from time to time, and it's always hard.

The other nurses may be excusing the mother as a way to deal with their own feelings of frustration and helplessness. If you can tell yourself there's a reason you can accept for what is happening, it lessens the feeling of hopelessness you may have.

Worse than a comprehensible tragedy is a senseless one - they may just be preserving their own emotional health the best way they know how, the way people will often say very silly things, like "At least she didn't linger," to someone who's lost a loved one, and ask inappropriate questions, like, "Why didn't someone get him to stop eating cheesesteaks before he had a heart attack?" People try to put a tragedy into some context so they feel they understand what happened.

Which doesn't make them right - there's no excuse for abuse - but might help you to forgive them for not responding the way you wish they had.

The world's always been a little crazy. Ever read the story of Oedipus? It's an ancient Greek play about a man who accidentally killed his father, married his mother without knowing it, sired two children, then, when he found out, put out his own eyes. Thousands of years ago, audiences in ancient Greece didn't fall over dead when they saw it, which tells you that the human condition was about then what it is now.

What we do have now that we didn't have then are laws to protect abused children, and a network of caring, committed professionals like you to try to save them. Maybe things are actually better than they used to be?

Meantime, take care of yourself, take some time to play with a puppy, or kids, or a friend, and preserve yourself, for you are a precious resource, a caring, committed medical professional, who can't save everyone, but wants to. Good luck!

Answer 4

no i would have been pissed too you dont beat your child for no reason and not even if you had a bad day theres no excuse to beat a child you had all right to be pissed but working in er you will come across worse thing than that and that lady needed DCFS called on her and if so was having that hard of a time then she dont need the child anyways theres always family friends or foster parents out there that lady has no ******* sence excuse my mouth but that made me mad

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with hitting a child! As long as you don't seriously hurt them and you let them know that you don't do it for fun or so you can hurt them just to make them understand! I hope this explains a little bit more and I can understand your side of the story as well! So, have a great day!

Answer 6

that would be very hard for me to see too. It gets me very mad. There is no excuse for it.
I think working in an ER would be very hard because you would see a lot of things that would be hard to take.

Answer 7

the world is crazy,and you shouldnt keep silent,you dont take it out on your kids,thats how you breed phycos and rapest...you should pay attention and if she comes back with the same bulls/hit then it's your duty to do something about it cuz a child cant do it for him self...

Answer 8

no, you're right. It's never acceptable to harm your own child. Especially enough to need to take them to the ER- that's just messed up and you should notify social services.

Answer 9

oh i completely agree with you! there is no excuse in the world to beat another human being! especially a child!

Answer 10

It depends on what you call beat. If the kid is truly abused then call CPS.