how do i ask my friend what her sexuality is without offending her?

Question

shes a new girl in school.

but it would be awkward to ask her because ima lesbian.

yea i have myspace and yes i have my orientation on their.

Answer 1

well you could try to test the waters...don't immediately tell her your a lesbian..but introduce GLBT issues and see how she responds.

Answer 2

i feel that you are more afraid of her being offended by your sexual orientation than being offended that you are asking hers.

I feel that you are afraid she might reject your friendship.

There are several ways to go about this. You can communicate with her directly, or you could do something like build a myspace page, put lesbian under sexual orientation, invite her to visit your profile, and she can find out for herself.

Communication in general is important, and i usually say take the direct rout; However, whichever way you feel safest communicating will be the right answer for you.

The second answer i listed may help incase you are worried that approaching her might make her think that you are interested in her romantically and/or sexually, this way it won't seem like you are coming on to her, but she will have access to the info about your sexual orientation.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, for one, you don't really need to know, and should probably figure out why this is important for you. Friends are friends and knowing sexual orientation usually isn't a central necessity of friendship. Assuming it's for positive reasons, just talk about LGBT stuff and be yourself. If she want's to tell you, then she may be a little more comfortable doing so. If she doesn't, well it could be because your wrong or because she simply doesn't want to come out right now.

Answer 4

Does she have a MySpace? It'll tell you on there. Otherwise I'd say watch her and give her a little more time before you try and find out with more direct methods.

Answer 5

You can wait for her to reveal herself or you can just come out and ask her...If she's straight, wouldn't you rather know ahead of time rather than waste all the effort wishing to know one way or the other...If she knows your orientation then pop the question...John or Jane? You are still going to be what you are no matter what her response is...

Answer 6

If you were to ask anyone their sexuality they would get a bit offended. Observe how she acts around girls and guys and that should be you answer. Or ask her if she thinks some guy is hot and see what she says.

Answer 7

If you've built a friendship with her, go ahead and ask tackfully. Don't just go "Hey! Are you a dyke?" in public. Set her down in private and ask her. If you haven't built a friendship with her maybe ask her about her past relationships in conversation and include both "standard" genders in your question. Just beat around the bush and hint at what you're asking until she gets it.

Answer 8

If shes truly a friend then it won't matter what you ask her. Start out by saying "Can I ask you a personal question..."
But then again if you have alterior motives and just want to get in her pants, then I'd just observe her interactions with other people.

Answer 9

Wait until she volunteers the information. It's a very personal question, especially for a new girl in school, and pretty much none of your business if she doesn't want to share it.

Answer 10

someones sexuality is their own private business. if she wants to tell u she will. leave the poor girl alone. its bad enough she is a new girl at school, let alone you asking her whether she is a lesbian or not.

Answer 11

If you are openly gay in school then just ask her.
If not then invite her to view your MySpace page.