i'm so insecure with myself, the way i look, who i am, and everything. it even affects my relationships with everyone. i can't get into a relationship because i'm afraid of being so close to people. most people don't know that about me. it's because i'm not obese and i dress pretty decent. how do i get over this? i always feel like no one will ever love me or that i won't let them. why do i feel this way? am i ever going to get over it? i even feel stupid for saying all of this.
2006-09-17 08:52:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People will see how you want them to see you.
People will love you, people will hate you. But remember we are all different and we are strange so why do you feel ashamed and insecure.
You sound like a lovely girl and don't let your feelings get you down
just open your eyes and you will see that people do love you.
Lift up your head and say to your self that you are great and that you are a lovely person.
Go out there and do what you want to do and don't let any one tell you other wise.
Good luck and I hope you get over this.
2006-09-17 09:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jack s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't feel stupid for asking some ones advice. I used to have the same problem you are going through, as a matter of fact I still feel this way to a point. I was so insecure with my self I was all the time worrying if people really like me, I never felt comfortable. One day I just woke up and realized that life is too short to worry what people think about me, why should I care. If they don't like me that's fine, I'm not forcing them to be around me. I hope this helps, and I hope I'm answering you question.
2006-09-17 16:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by jtdm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're very smart for saying all of that. The question is the first step. Now you have to find the answer. Only you have it, but it's hidden from you. Look into your past. What lessons did you learn that now maybe it's time to unlearn? What happened in your life, and how did this insecurity become part of your belief system in response to what happened? If you can find a counselor or therapist to talk to about they may be able to help you find a solution. But you're on the right path just for asking. I wish you the best -- never believe you don't deserve it.
2006-09-17 15:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by monkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a way to boost your self esteem and self worth. There are so many books in the library that address this issue. Once you have read about this, you will be able to develop skills that will assist you to have better relationships with people and deal with your issues better. It starts with you....Don't just sit there and feel sorry for yourself. Do something about it. Or you will never change anything. I would also recommend seeing your family doctor to rule out depression...some of the things you said, could point to this.
2006-09-17 15:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make our own happiness. This is something we do inside. My suggestion to you is to focus on your inner beauty. You may be to caught up in the way others look, and as a result , have become over critical of yourself. Also, your comments about obesity and what you wear are shallow. Again, focus on the inner beauty and others will notice both your physical beauty and what's inside.
2006-09-17 16:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by who R U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie so am i well i used to be u have to believe in urself and u can't depend on a man or friend can make u feel that way i used to not even be able to leave my house without a hoodie to cover me and being very thin of course my weight is normal and beautiful but u know what u have to know it for urself b4 u'll be comfortable expecting what other ppl say u can't love anyone unless u love you self .
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2006-09-17 16:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by headbanger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying so much about the way you look (but do keep yourself clean) act like you, and don't say things to put yourself down. Its tough, I know, I went through something similar to this a few years ago but with a little effort you can get over this
2006-09-17 16:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering why you think no one will love and why you think that your feelings are stupid.
You should talk to a therapist because there are many issues that you need to sort out.
Once you begin seking help, you will find that these insecurities can be conquered.
In the meantime, go to http://www.youmeworks.com/thinkpositivelypositively.html
2006-09-17 15:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do be so down on yourself. I used to feel the same way. Just look in the mirror and say "I am a worthwile precious child of God." Believe me it works!
2006-09-17 15:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont want to sound to harsh, but who gives a **** what other ppl say? there are alot of ppl that would except you for who you are, and the only way they can, is if you do 1st, so grow up, buy a new pair of shoes, then go out with your girlfriends. guyz will be comein up to you left and right as long as you act conifdent.
good luck!!
2006-09-17 15:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Classic Couture 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋