I don't know what to do anymore about my situation. I started dating this man the end of May 2006. We both fell in love quickly and passionately. We ended up getting married the beginning of July in Las Vegas. Now, I would have never thought that one could love another so much, but his neediness is overwhelming. He always needs reassurance about me loving him, asking me a million times over and over "we never would get a divorece, right honey? I don't know! In life you never really know! I try to be honest and he gets upset and out of shape about it. He is so sensitive and a lot to handle. The sex never was that exciting, but all the things I loved about him in the beginning are now irritating to me. He is a medical resident and his boards are coming up. Because he is so crazy about me, he had to change the test date 3 times already because he can't focus on anything but me. The other day I lost it and told him I needed a break, he went completely nuts over this. Is he psycho?
2006-09-17 08:52:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he needs to know you love him so tell him hes the only one for you
2006-09-17 08:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by jerry k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months after you marry the guy. What is wrong with you. No wonder you're in this situation. You don't even know him. If you had dated him for good while then you would probably see how insecure he is. I don't know if he is a psycho, he is definitely insecure though. It seems like he needs to be told and showed that he is loved constantly.
You should have really taken things slow and get to know him, then maybe you wouldn't be in this type of situation.
2006-09-17 17:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jamacaray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you rushed into this. You need to take a few steps back and if you really love this guy, then start over. Things just don't seem right. You've only been with the guy for 4 months and you're married already?!? Think about the advice you would give to a friend in this situation.
2006-09-17 15:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Annie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psycho I don't know, insecure most definitely. You need to explain all this to him, calmly. You need to tell him that he needs to relax and chill out a little or he's going to drive you away, you have to tell him that if he can't manage that on his own he needs to get whatever help there is to get him to that point. Tell him that part of 'loving' you is having faith in you and he shouldn't need you to hold his hand 24/7. The stuff about not taking his boards is most likely an excuse, a way to avoid something he's afraid of and maybe thats what this is really about, he's super stressed and perhaps overwhelmed with life in general so he gets hyper over you...either way he needs to get a grip and the sooner he figures that out the better. You did marry him so try to help him see this and get the help he needs, he needs it whether your marriage works out or not. Good luck, this is a tough spot you are in but hopefully he's bright enough to figure it out.
2006-09-17 16:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between you two who has the looks? Dont lie or be humble here think about it.
Im guessing you do.. ..
He is probably just insecure about himself and his ability to keep you and wouldn't be a stretch to say he probably has some baggage. Obviously you arent the one who burned him and I am sure he has moved on but hasn't forgotten what it felt like.
You could try little things to reassure him like taking him to buy you some cute shirt he likes you in and wear it around. Text message him randomly, or just call to see what he is doing so he knows your thinking.
Basically stuff that ladies always say we dont do often enough you should try as crazy as that sounds.
He could be crazy too though so I won't rule that out as a possibility. The question is if he does calm down and isnt so needy will you miss that attention or feel like something is wrong?
2006-09-17 16:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by se7en 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is psycho and he will be a stalker if you try to get rid of him. You had no way of know what this person is really like after only two months.
2006-09-17 16:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you marry someone that you have only known for 2 months?? No wonder you are asking this question....you don't really know him!
To me, it sounds like he has some terrible self-esteem issures. If you wish to save your marriage, try marriage counseling. If he won't go with you, go alone.
2006-09-17 16:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married him too fast. You did not give yourself enough time to get to know him better. I've been married 5 years and I still don't know my husband 100%. What were you thinking?
2006-09-17 16:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by M & M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMH he makes the average clingy people look good with his pyschotic ways. I'd be taking a break alright, a permanent one.
2006-09-17 17:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a psycho/stalker get the f**k away from his a** quick before he kill you just for looking at some guy RUUUUNNNNN!!!
2006-09-17 15:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋