My husband had a fling with an Irish tart a while ago and I dont trust him. He refuses to leave, saying he wants to stay married, but he won't address the problems that caused the affair so I live in fear that it will happen again. How do I get him to leave?
2006-09-17 08:44:41 · 43 answers · asked by good tree 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would suggest that you stop doing everything, dont cook for him, dont wash his clothes..Nothing, make him see that you are fed up with him, make him sleep in another room, whatever it takes. If that doesnt work, call a lawyer, you can get him out.
2006-09-17 09:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can not be with someone you can not trust. The reason he doens't want to address the probs is b/c he doesnt you to leave him. He should of thought of that before cheating you on. If you feel that this marriage is over than you need to file for divorce. Let him know that you want him to move out of the house....Give him a week and find a place. In the meantime...you should stay with a family or a friend. Even though he doesn't leave the house for now doesn't mean you have to stay. After a week if he doesn't leave than you ask for a restraining order from the police.
I know that he hurt you but you guys were once happy so give him a little time to move. Don't make it any more nasty than it already is.....
2006-09-17 08:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit him down and tell him, very plainly, that your marriage is over and you want him to leave. Having already started divorce proceedings will add weight to this. If that doesn't work, send his belongings to his mother's house and change the locks while he's out. However, from what I can tell, perhaps you don't 100% want the marriage to end. Drag his cheating behind to Relate and see if there's any way of getting past this affair - assuming, of course, this isn't something he makes a habit of.
If you really are desperate to be rid of him, it might pay off to go to the woman he carried on with and see if she wants him. If you can use his 'indiscretion' to your advantage, do.
2006-09-17 08:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by valiumgodmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm you file for a divorce get temporary ownership on everything..the house... the car...the kids which will not let him on the property or see the kids...until your divorce is final or he gets a lawyer and fight back. When you file for this he has to get out the house or the cops can make him. That is if you really wanted him out. If you want to save your marriage which is probably the way that it is going to go....YOU think about what it is that you don't do...and do them...Honestly..if you are the same woman that he fell in love with and you do all the things that you use to do he would be perfectly satisfied. Have you slacked off any...
2006-09-17 08:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by kikosgirl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not taking you seriously because you told him to leave before and then just let it drop when he didn't bother to actually do it. Tell him to leave again, tell him you mean it and you want him out by _____ (pick a day) if he doesn't then when he's at work or out or whatever pack his stuff, put it outside the door and change the locks, he'll get the message then. He's going to try to get away with this as long as you let him so stop letting him. Good luck!
2006-09-17 08:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him the heck out of the house, love the Irish tart bit........tell him, can you get a court order of some sort, start divorce proceedings. honey once a cheater, always a cheater, and if there is no trust in the marriage, then its over, that is how i would feel, he betrayed you trust, faith and love..........of course he wont address his problem, because he wont's his cake and he won ts to eat it to, good luck.
2006-09-17 08:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, he has the right to stay in the house if its owned in joint names. The only alternative is to move out, file for a divorce and make him either sell the house or buy you out so you can start again.
Seek legal advice asap though and get thinsg rolling. Good luck!
2006-09-17 08:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you hear the one about the Lorena Bobbit virus? It turns a hard drive into a 3 & 1/2 inch floppy.
2006-09-17 08:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw you poor thing did you Walt Disney fairy story not come true! and your dream got broken. I suggest you look at your part in it that drove him into another womans arms!. Funny how women says he only wants me for sex, then when they have sex with anopther you complain! which away is it to be? and who told you relationship was suppsoed to last forever. there is no forgiveness here to consider, forgiveness for what? has he done something wrong or something perfectly natural that you can't handle? why not appreciate the fact that he fancied someone else, like you do! or dont you have dirty little secrets miss precious??? Is that all your realtionships based on? sex! so everything goes out the door becuase you cant handle it? I suggest you re-evaluate and transform your reality around whats so , especially your false reality that "your relationshp" should "look" according to "your way" or its not on, how long have you been a facist controller and manipulator by the way? maybe that will give you some clue why he went with her! men don't like to sit on the outside of the cave guarding the horizon all day being challenged and then come into the cave and get their buttons pressed with emotional violence!(ask any man if you think i lie) i suggest you take a long hard look at your part in causing it!
2006-09-17 09:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Throw all of his clothes out of the window onto your front yard, and set them on fire. Then change the locks. He'll get the message. (Or, you could always fall back on Mark B's suggestion, and put rat poison in his food. Actually, that is probably the easiest way to get rid of him.)
2006-09-17 08:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce and get a restraining order. You do not have to stay married if you do not want to....he cannot stop you from getting a divorce. And you may be the one who has to leave if he won't.
2006-09-17 08:47:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋