who pays on dates ?do you split it?when you first go out?

Question

when you first date someone who pays?what if you (a women )
makes more money than the man ?.is chivilary dead?

Answer 1

Whoever asks for the date should pay.

Answer 2

Since the modern idea of a "date" requires a consumption event, the man should pay and the woman should return the favor by providing the man sexual favors. But if the woman is a pig, then the man can pay for the date out of pity. After all, what good is a modern woman these days anyway besides as a provider of sex? Occasionally you might get lucky and find a loving woman, and that is worth pursuit.

Answer 3

Traditionally a man is expected to pay for the date. A more modern approach is the person who initiated the date pays. Personally, I always paid my half when I first dated a man. The reason I began this was because I got tired of guys thinking they deserved something for buying dinner. If they were not okay with me paying my share I knew they weren't for me. It must have worked because I found a perfect gentleman to marry.

Answer 4

It makes no diff who makes more $$$, it depends on who asks whom. If a woman asks a gentleman out, she should expect to pay, but as I've seen, the guy will always insist in paying, so be upfront when asking. Tell him it's your treat and pick somewhere that's fun and inexpensive. If he wants to leave the tip, let him. He'll feel much better. Most men have been taught that they are the providers and it's their responsibility to pay. We women don't have a prob with paying if we really want to go out with someone interesting...good luck

Answer 5

i think it depends mostly on who is asked. Also, the expense of the date. If you ask someone to dinner, then you should at least offer to pay for it. If you and your prospective date are into sports or something, and decide that you would like to go to a game, then you might like at splitting some of the cost.

Answer 6

The person who ask should pay for the date,be it male or female. It's o.k. to split the bill sometimes when you're with friends of course! Not on a romantic date.

Answer 7

"Hello mommy69?
This is the 21st century! Everybody, whos not a control freak, should pay equally.
I noticed a lot of your answerers use this phrase "then let him" or just "let him" in their answers. All this message says to anyone, who "listens" to what they write, infers CONTROL. Lets get away from these CONTROL issues and become FAIR with both sexes.
Equal payment is the ONLY way in the present and in the future.
Anyone who reads these statements and feels angered, I suggest they take a deep (and probably scary) look into themselves and move in the direction of what's fair rather than the victorian, 18th centrury lifestyle they like to live in.
Chivalry? Thats just the last word you spelled wrong and has no place in our future of equality, UNLESS, one party wants to be an "accomplice" to old injustices and states of being."

Answer 8

I believe the man should always pay, unless the woman asks and says the only way it is is a date is if she pays.

Answer 9

I'm gay. We're freed of the gendertyping, but left to figure it out for ourselves. First date is almost ALWAYS split. From there, depends on the individuals involved. Chivalry, as nice as it sounds, is terribly sexist and there's no way around that. That said, I do still hold doors for women; it's just that I also hold them for men.

Answer 10

On the first date, it is always the one who does the asking. After that, it needs to be talked about.