my boy friend of one year ,text me today.The situation is we have never had a cross word ,he is kind considerate, and loyal. he lives in Swindon and i live in south wales uk . we have similar jobs in the finance field. i broke up with him 12 days ago as he said the distance was too great . ..since the split up i have had him texting me every day wanting to know my every move ,he is not a possesive lad though. he soiunds really gutted and said that it woul eat him up inside if he thought of me with someone else., i really do love him ,and i think it could work ,but today on his text he has more or less asked if i am prepared to move to swindon for 18 months . its something to do with his job , i dont know what yet ,as hes going to phone me later . would it be unreasanable of me to say no , as i really do love him .we are both 25 years of age ,and both mature people.i could have a job in Swindon easily ,but what im affraraid of is ,he said after 18 months he would come and live in wale
2006-09-17 07:59:02 · 22 answers · asked by Linda 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes ,you r right.dont go to wales.stay where you like and tell him to move with you for 18 months in london.then go to scotland to try if he will folow and then i will give you a house to go with his best mate in holland.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART.Johnny wallker scotch whiskey
2006-09-17 08:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by yiannis the greek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take a job in Swindon and move in, since you love him and think it will work. So what if he wants to come to Wales after 18 months?Both of you can work in Wales.
2006-09-17 15:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart!!! Jobs and where you live doesn't matter as long as you are together.I met my partner over the phone,we had a distance problem.10 weeks later I told him to move in.He gave up his job,his home,everything.We have been together over 2 years now.When love comes along grab that chance of happiness.Do whatever you have to do.Jobs are ten a penny,that special someone isn't.We only have one life,take chances,it is like an adventure.New jobs,new people.Good luck!!
2006-09-17 15:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you liked the long distance affair but not too sure of living together or giving up your life in Wales ie. you liked your freedom and it was more romantic when you two did meet up..if you are not too sure dont do it, tell him you llike it the way it is for now and want more time to think about things but still want to see him..dont be pressurised you will end up hating him and the situation
2006-09-17 15:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he`s the one, then go for it. Never let a good one pass you by. I have made that mistake recently and i`m regretting it. You broke up because of the distance, perhaps you should have moved in together long before now? Good luck
2006-09-17 15:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by sillyfilly001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question DO YOU LOVE HIM ??? second question DOES HE LOVE YOU ???? Well meet each other half way!!!! I always beleive in meeting my better half half way as it is only fair that way!!!!! But believe you me....................... it will be totally different when you get your own place you will both change............... make sure your relationship is strong............. and by the sound of your boyfriend not being able to cope with the distance it sounds like it could do with building on a bit before you go get a place together. Good Luck x
2006-09-18 11:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Very Sexy Vixen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel is best for you but just remember that you'll be far away from your family.take them into consideration as well before you decide on what you want to do. better yet, if he truly loves you then he should be the one to make the move for 18 months.
2006-09-17 15:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day you ended the relationship and if you think you two can make it work then go for it,if not then dont go to stay with him because if he does want you back this will make it even harder for him to let you go and then you will have the problem with what to do in 18 months
2006-09-17 15:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by sam* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could consider a neutral area to live in together. living together at your age is really your decision. my concern for you is having some place to go quickly, if the arrangement does not work out. have a plan as to what you would do if you do not get along. good luck! hugs
2006-09-17 15:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fair to me. One of you has to make the break and the first move. Even better if the other is willing to do the same later
2006-09-17 15:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋