Should we stay together, or should I leave him.Next month will make 2 years married.And I dont know if I love my husband.We fuss and fight all the time.He makes me feel worthless.He is very conceited,he thinks I cant do better than him.We filed for divorce once,but HE STOPPED it.Saying he wanted to try and make things work.But I know our marriage is over.I wanted to try to stick with him,cause marriage is suppose to last forever!He has cheated on me in the past,but I think he is still up to no good!He has so many females on his IM,and when I ask him about them he says they are only friends.Girls call his phone throughout the day and late nite!He will go outside and answer his phone,or he wont answer in my presence.He leaves without telling me anything.I have a son,that doesnt belong to him.He hasnt bonded with my son.We dont do anything as a family.My birhday,just pasted and I didnt get a damn thing.Not a card or flowers.Please give me your advice on this disfunctional marriage!Thanks!
2006-09-17 07:39:58 · 22 answers · asked by Ty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If things are as you tell us all, it is time to end the realtionship. HAte to be blunt, but your son is the one who will carry the emotional scars of this relationship.
Do it for him unlkess you wish to see him cary hurt for the rest of your life. If he is having private converstions and has to go outside to talk, he is still having affairs and does not want you to hear that he is.
Dont let him stop you this time. Its a game with him. He wants to be on both sides of the fence.
All marriages do not last forever and this one should not. While some marriages do last for all of lifetime for some couples, yours will not. the marriage that last is one where both are true to each other and sit down and talk over differences. Talk is the key to a good marriage and learning to sa I am sorry if I did you wrong. How can I change this and will you help me.
Dont waste anymore time. Dont you leve, make him leave the home.
If I had did this to my wife she would h ave kicked me out so fast I would not know what happened. Think of your son and his feelings. Let this go on and he may not want to trust any future men in your life.
2006-09-17 07:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you two are willing to get counseling of some sort, but if that doesn't work and he's not trying then you need to leave this guy and start a new and better life. He can't expect things to work out if he's not putting forth an effort to make this work. You deserve happiness, go with what your heat is telling you. When you know you have put forth the effort over and over again and you have tried and nothing seems to go any different then you need to move on. Your are his wife and you should be respected and showered with love. You have to know you deserve that. You are special and and you need a special man by your side. Don't stay in this and ruin your heart and your life. You are the only one that can make a desicion in the end. make a firm decision this time and stick by it.
2006-09-17 07:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry I did not even finish reading this the minute you say that ahe made you feel worthless I became angry
GIRL you do not stay with someone that made you feel anything less than the Queen of your domaine
You deserve better
Get him out of your life, he does not want a divorce because he need a floor mate to make him better (you are the floor mat)
file for divorce and have him serve when he comes back from on of his trip to wherever the hell he came from
2006-09-17 07:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty clear that this is going nowhere and if you are this unhappy after two years of marriage imagine how much worse it will be after 5 or 10! Its not working so I'd leave and chalk it up to a mistake you made once and move on. Good luck.
2006-09-17 07:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow I guess as hard as it is you need to move on, I am.... your birthday comment kind of reminds me of fathers day this past year when my wife got nothing for me from my 3 kids and the card she did get me said I was such a wonderful father because I am married to such a wonderful woman. It will be hard, I was married for 12 years and lots of differences in my marriage but I had just become a paycheck to her according to my pastor and yet some days (in fact most days) I still miss her.
2006-09-17 07:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by jbrown280000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should not be forever if you're with someone who treats you like that. Sounds like you should never have married in the first place. Is "being married" that important to you that you'll let him treat you like crap? What's the point? And how could you put your son through that?
You DON'T have a marriage, you're an emotional slave. Get a back bone and get the hell out of there...before it gets worse.
2006-09-17 07:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy with this marriage, get out! I was in pretty much the same situation and I stayed around and stuck with it for 14 years (kicking myself in the ***). I have lost a lot of time or should I say I wasted a lot of time and live with that regret everyday. So get out before everything goes pear shaped!
2006-09-17 08:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce again, and if he tries to stop it again, tell him this time it is not going to work. Dont be with someone who thinks little of you. And you should have never married him in the first place if he never even tried to bond with your child. Go your way and leave him alone.
2006-09-17 08:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you'd be much happier without him. Try it. If you have a job, and some money saved, move out on your own. You'll love the quality time with your son, and the peace of mind.
2006-09-17 07:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by ruthncls 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not....I know it's easier said then done, but it's only going to get worse. I know that mentally you are sitting on a see-saw going from side to side, but STOP. Just do whatever you have to do as long as you take your heart out of the situation, this way you do not get hurt....Good Luck.
2006-09-17 07:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋