the way that my life is going to be--to standing up for myself and younger gays when I felt injustice was being dealt. Now I find myself actually considering the fact that I'm glad that I was born gay. I feel somehow like I was one of the lucky ones....Does anybody else feel this way?...pls no religious sh*t and no pastings
2006-09-17 07:28:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
good for you, and I agree! 25 years ago, when I first realized I was lesbian, I was scared. I was 18 and lived at home and didn't know anyone at all who was openly gay that I could talk to/confide in, much less go out with. I didn't come out to my family until years later, long after I moved out because I was afraid, like I've heard happen to a lot of teens, of being rejected and maybe even kicked out.
I've come to accept who I am and I wouldn't change a thing! I have a wonderful woman who loves me, and family, friends and coworkers who accept me for who I am!
2006-09-17 07:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you look at it from a satistical poitn of view, i have heard 11% of the population is gay (but can't substantiate that number, and it might seem a little generous, but you never really know). So, you were lucky enough to be a part of that minority, but that is slippery logic because then people with Parkinson's would be lucky too... So, maybe that approach isn't the way to look at it. I guess you are lucky because you have overcome adversity in these trying times.
2006-09-17 14:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Evo_Morales 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see sexual orientations from two different levels. I see the stratified level (meaning different groups different ranking within society which determines mobility, power, resources, and pirvileges) and it makes me heart sore because of the other way i see human sexuality: Human.
I am not anymore glad to be born affectional or sexual towards any groups as opposed to any others. I am glad that through my life experiences, i have been able to interract with the world, and be interracted with in such a way that i can empathise with many human social groups.
Being Conservative Christian and Heterosexual, Then Bi, Then Gay, then Queer & Spiritual...Being labeled "woman" (by others) then labeling myself "bigendered" then "omnigendered" then "Nongedered" allowed me to see a spectrum of several different experiences.
Identifying as Transgendered, then Transexual, then non-traditionally trans in non-binary terms allowed me to experiences several levels of discrimination from all sides of the rainbow..
Socially constructed categories aside,
I am very glad to be human. ^_^
And i dissagree very highly with goldwing who makes very gender segregated comments. Goldwing is illustrating the Hierarchies prevalent even in the queer community, where heterosexuals, as well as queer people knowingly or unknowingly oppress other queer people (and heterosexual people). Goldwing, this world does not just consist of men and women, males and females. Rather there are far more than 2 chromosomal sexes, and far more than 2 genders. Also, gender changes over time and depending on location. There is no universal experience or behavior code of being a man or a woman, or being male, female, or any other sex. Even oppressed groups can oppress other groups when they are ignorant. Link below to educational papers spanning a wide area of human issues.
2006-09-17 16:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its uncommon for people and maybe men in particular to refuse to acknowledge the truth. The truth in this instance is something that is going to add a degree of struggle in your life and well, who wants that?
More power to you, and keep on demanding that you have the ability to live your life the way you were meant to. You have community in the struggle, if you want it, get involved with your local PRIDE organizations.
Self confidence defines the man, gay or straight. Its also very hot. Good luck to you.
2006-09-17 14:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I accept myself.. if you know in my country it's not very easy to be gay.. at least the concept of gay people is they are girlie and they have to act like a girl or dress as well.. well I dont know much about this ambient.. my english is not very good.. but I like myself even sometimes I dont like but is not cuz I am gay just another things heheheh I cannot say I am proud for being gay but I accepted even it's hard when nobody likes gays here
2006-09-18 02:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that we are God's chosen elite group. Only about 10% of us make the cut. Throughout the ages, mankind has gone to extraordinary lengths to dissuade men from being Gay! The actions speak louder than all the words in the Bible or wherever...IF being Gay were not better than being Straight, the matter would recieve little attention. BUT, it recieves a lot of attention, doesn't it? So much so, that a sane person would have to assume that Gay is better than Straight, if for no other reasons than all the taboos set about it. IF it takes tribal taboo to keep a man from being Gay, there must be something very powerful in it, don't you think? People continue to scream "Choice." Well, it is obvious from their own writings that it is a preferred choice! I was married, had children, but when I met "the one, " it was overpowering...nothing I did could hold back the tide...overwhelming is the only word I can use. And it certainly wasn't the sex! It was a consuming fire that could not be contained in any manner.
God supposedly sent his "only Son" to Earth to live with 13 men, little contact with women, day in and night out. The bond with these men was extraordinary. God knew what he was doing. Generals in the past have known what they were doing when they formed armies of ONLY homosexuals...in effort to protect their lovers, they were the fiercest fighting teams ever known. You don't have to look far to see that we are the more equal of God's creatures...we have drive above the average Straight, we have intensity that few Straights can match, we care about ourselves and those about us. And no matter what you say, the infighting, cattiness, etc. are all forms of endearment. We have, on the average, higher intelligence, certainly better taste, often better jobs, higher pay, better houses, bodies that are certainly better than the average guy on the street, and in all, are excellent citizens who are berated daily for good cause! IF Straight men could live a gay life for just 1 year, there would be no turning back. No headaches at night for lack of sex, no petty arguing except about what show to see next. Men and women will NEVER understand eachother...men understand men, and still like them! We both know there was no choice involved. I am just thankful I was in the right line when it came to check out. I inherited my gayness and have never had remorse about it. I did go through a period of guilt in that I had to leave a wife whom I loved deeply, but ...all's well that ends well. We are both very happy today. My children love me intensely and are very loyal. I actually feel sorry for those who have all this in front of them, yet listen to the rantings of lunatics who have no knowledge or insight to being Gay. It doesn't take a genius to see through the envy of Straights who view us as those who have all the fun in life. Well, when you look at it, I think we do. If I were straight, I think I might be a little envious myself. Good luck and peace.
PS: Religious lunatics and fanatics are the ones that have problems with life. They live in an insular world of loathing, hate, and sin, sin, sin. What a pitiful existence these people have. Pity to waste all that we are given with being consumed by preaching and speaking for a god they have no idea of. Hmmmmmm
2006-09-17 14:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not ashamed of it and never have been. glad i was born gay? yes and no
yes I'm happy because earlier in life it gave me the confidence to be happy about me
but no because other than that i don't feel one way or another about it
2006-09-17 14:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are none so blind as those who will not see. Just a thought as I read someone ranting that humans are not born gay!!! I despair that the more we progress some seem to regress. Look after yourself kid and keep your head up high!
2006-09-17 14:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by Raymo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a French philosopher once said, "I did not choose to be who and what I am, but since it is me, I will neither deny nor apologize for it". Embrace your life with joy and live it with truth and honor, for the ultimate victory of truth is love.
2006-09-17 14:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My life... I would guess I have gone from being what others continually insisted that I "must" do or be to what I want, what I feel, who I am instead of who they want me to be.
I'm proud to not only be myself, but to be able to look directly in the eyes of people like Erica and laugh.
2006-09-17 14:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋