when i go out and talking to friends and relatives sometimes they purposefuully create doubt and ego problems between us. it creates big psunami for 2-3 days. but things store inside may blownout anymoment for silly reasons.1. inlaws spread gossip through friend 2. in home slowly discussion begins lead to one side anger otherside no respond.3 .nonacceptance of doubt by wife furthur creates anger 4. fear starts for loosing energy. 5 others interfere provokes eachother 6. children get confused 7.samething otherday.8 same problem but situation and persons are different. 9 doubt - insult- anger- fear- depression - no happiness. please answer pateintly to help our life to move in positive directoion. thank you
2006-09-17 07:24:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will give you a valuable piece of advice.
Do not give your personal information to the enemy (your family who will become involved in your personal business)
Outsiders cannot disturb your married life if you do not give them the information to do it. If you need to unload occasionally make sure it is to someone you trust and not a family member or a friend who would discuss your business.
Do not let outsiders tear down your home.
Best wishes for a good and happy resolution.
2006-09-17 07:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read the question, I sympathised with the man a little - its natural for men to look at other women even when married, and the masturbation is also natural - im sure you masturbate as well - it just proves that they have a healthy sex drive, so i dont beleive this is a problem. If it offends you that much approach him maturely and sensetively and just explain how you feel. Maybe he just doesnt realise how you feel. However, it sounds like the way he is treating you is unacceptable. So a divorce may deffinately be a good way out. Your parents will understand. Speak to them first if it worries you. A good set of parents will care more about your health and welfare than the way society will look upon them. What is a little dissaproval from society in comparison to the happiness of their little girl?
2016-03-27 06:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove yourself from the offending people. We currently have no contact with certain family members because of these same issues. We have had no contact for nearly 5 years. It does not get rid of all of the problems, but it does help tremendously. We have not forbade our children from seeing these people. When one of my kids got into some trouble, one of the offending parties e-mailed me a letter that he had sent to another family member concerning my kid. I responded to him "Why is this any of your business." It all stopped there. Good luck!
2006-09-17 07:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by Blue Eyed Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this just happened to my friend, her husband moved to a new city to start a new life for them, but didnt get a place yet so hesliving with family until he gets a place and he can send for his wife, then he told her she should go live with her parents for like 2 months so shes not stuck here all alone with only me to help her out, so now everyone is trying to tell her shes getting divorced and hes leaving her, even her family..is that what she needs right now? extra stress? no!! people are so f'ing nosey
2006-09-17 07:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so simple
1. Try to spend a maximum possible time with ur wife.
2. Utilise every moment with her to let her understand u and ur feelings.
3. Be matured & courageous while in/while 'treating' ur so called well wishers.
4. and finally : 'R U Financially indepedednt?'
Meanwhile try to get some prefessional advises as well.
2006-09-17 18:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your location - if you can get a break abroad take it - or go to another city with your wife. Things will all fall in place.
2006-09-17 18:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by jnpnjnjnj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this doesn't call for a marriage counselor not else does! Go get some professional help and soon.
2006-09-17 07:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a suspicious person of your abilities. If you are able to satisfy your wife, she will never betray you. No matter what others say when your confide wiyh you.
2006-09-17 07:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You worry too much about what other people think. Live your lives and don't get together with family and relatives as often.
2006-09-17 07:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to have to go along with the rest, it's time for some professional help!
2006-09-17 07:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Desiderata of Happiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋