Okay, so, my best friend Stephanie and this guy Dillon were going out for a while, and then Dillon broke up with Stephanie and four or five days later he was dating a girl named Karina. This was in 9th grade. We're now all in 10th grade and Dillon asked me to be his girlfriend and I sad yes. Stephanie got very angry and told me i was not her friend anymore and she called me a b**** and a backstabbing friend and one of my other friends agrees with Stephanie. So I'm all confused. Are they right? Or is Stephanie just overreacting?
2006-09-17 07:20:43 · 8 answers · asked by Valrina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stephanie told everybody that she was going to break up with Dillon, and Dillon heard about that, so he broke up with her. According to my other friend Stephanie is mad at me because she hates Dillon and anybody who associates with him. I think that is very childish and immature. Dillon doesn't really have very many friends anymore because of Stephanie and I really do like him a lot and he really likes me. But I don't want to lose all of my friends because Stephanie is turning them against me. So please help me, what should I do?
2006-09-17 08:30:14 · update #1
I had a friend in high school who did the something similar. Every guy she dated either myself or another friend of ours dated him first. IT was annoying, but it was her choice on whether or not to date them. She knew why we all broke up and stuff, so it was her choice. Just like it is your choice on who you can date. Your friend is overreacting a bit especially since they were broken up and he dated someone else before you started dating him. It isn't her business who you date, just like it isn't your business who she dates. Basically, what I am saying is she shopuldn't have a say in who you get to date. If you want to date him, then go ahead. If she doesn't like it then she honestly needs to grow up a little bit and realise that she has no control what so ever with your dating life. Also, if she called you a b**** then she isn't really your friend. A true friend will accept that you wanted to date him, even if she doesn't like it.
2006-09-17 07:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup Stephanie is right to be upset - at the very least you should have gone first and asked her if it was ok for you to go out with Dillon.
There are millions of men in the world - why bother with sloppy seconds and a guy who has been with every girl in the school.
You keep this up - you will not have any girlfriends at all.
2006-09-17 07:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by skepticseeksmystic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For what reason did Stephanie and Dillon part ways...did she leave him because she wanted to date someone else or did he leave her because he wanted to date someone else? If she left him then she should not be mad at you for seeing him...if he left her then you should keep in mind that he'll do the same thing to you. If he broke her heart and she wants him back (and you as her friend have known this all along, but have chosen to date him anyway)...then she has a right to be mad at you for not choosing your friendship over Dillon! If you were only her friend as a way to 'get' Dillon...then you were not really her friend to begin with...if she left him to date someone else and is now pissed because he likes you rather than her...then she is not your true friend. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer! Fare Thee Well.
2006-09-17 07:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a right to be upset. think about how you would feel if she all of the sudden started dateing a guy you once dated and probebly still cared for. she is your best friend, he is just a guy, that may just end up messing up your friendship with her and then moveing on to someione else. Alwasy think things over clearly and discusthing with your friend before getting involved with someone she has been involved with in the past.
2006-09-17 07:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by midesweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you might have to suck this one up and let him go if you want to keep ur friend. It is never acceptable to date and good friends ex. And a best friend come on. I suggest that you let him go and apologize to ur friend. There are many more fish in the water. I promise.
2006-09-17 07:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by azsundevil50 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't blame her for reacting that way. put yuorself into her shoes and think what you'ld feel...i bet you'ld feel the same way bout her too.
you're just in 10th grade, no point in loosing your bestfriend for some guy. boyfriends they come then they go...true friends stay forever.
2006-09-17 07:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by lord_love_rocket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes stephanie is right
2006-09-17 07:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those rules - you don't date your friends ex boyfriend... never never never... there is always drama.
2006-09-17 07:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by mrsstephaniekay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋