Let me start by saying that I love and adore my wife. But our physical relationship has become routine (same room of the house, same position, same time of day, couple of times a week). What's more, she almost never initiates sex with me anymore. How can I suggest to her that I would like a little more adventure, variety, and spice in our sex life without hurting her feelings? I've tried making a variety of suggestions, but each time they have been met with either a lack of interest or down right resistance. I could use some advice, especially from the wives out there. Any suggestions?
2006-09-17 07:18:29 · 6 answers · asked by Desiderata of Happiness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Me and my husband have something special that we call Fantasy time. He gets to pick any fantasy that he wants full filled and I get to pick the time that it happens. An example we he wanted to try 3 different types of sex in one day. Then we switch off and I get to pick a fantasy that he get to full fill. An example was to have sex outside. We have been doing this for almost 3 years and it has helped both of us add a little spice to sex by know what the other likes. Talking it out with her like this might make it easier than just offering suggestions, this way she gets a say in what happens.
Hope it helps and good luck!!
2006-09-17 08:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One simple thing alot of married people seem to forget is that sex is more than just doing the actual deed.A woman needs to feel sexy to be sexy.Do you only fondle her when you want sex? Most women I've been with including my wife like to be touched and caressed even when its not going to lead to sex.My wife loves it when I come up behind her and kiss her neck and maybe give her butt or breasts a quick fondle.Do this in a playful manner and compliment her by saying "I love your breasts,or your butt fells so good.Tell her she looks good enough to eat or just tell her she looks great.The courting process shouldn't stop because your married , now you can do it full time and both of you will remember why you got married and hopefully rekindle the spark.As for adventure if you start making your wife feel sexy again I think she will be more receptive to being more adventurous.
2006-09-17 15:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jim C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up date night like when you were chasing her. Get the babysitter a couple of hours before the party begins so she can take a long bath and decompress. Women sometimes have trouble switching from "mom" mode to "sex goddess" mode. She needs time and quiet. That's a problem in day to day life.
Go out, treat her like the special girl who's *** you kissed when you were trying to get into her pants. Courtesy. Courtesy. Courtesy. Then when you get home, don't chew the buttons off of her dress, give her a long, slow , leisurely body rub with small kisses, licks, and bites sprinkled on here and there.
Do this once a month for 3 months. You will start getting hummers in the living room once again after the kids are in bed...
2006-09-17 14:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, Sounds like u need to take the lead. Looks like u r going to have to find out whats goin on with her. Sometimes when u men communicate, since us women 'think' so differently than u guys, well, sometimes, we really just don't catch your drift. Also, She might be a bit bashfull, so gradually work her into new things, take it reaalllllly sllloooowwwwwwww. Remember, Anticipation is sweet in itself! Get her realxed, comfortable & build her confidence...make her think that she's really turnin u on...the more into it you get, she should follow. I'd like to know more about what you are thinkin, bc many men make the same comment about their wives. Hmmmmm
2006-09-17 15:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tough situation. Since she is resistant to some of your suggestions then I guess watching soft porn together is out of the question.
One thing that might interest her is if you offer to bathe her. Nice smelling bath soap and all.
If she isn't interested in that then I guess you will have to start out very, very slowly. Buy her some romance books. I find that Karen Marie Moning's books get me in the mood very quickly.
Good luck.
2006-09-17 14:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I CAN WORK WITH YOUR WIFE ON THESE THINGS!
2006-09-17 14:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋