Why everytime......?

Question

It's this young woman, 22 years old with 2 kids, just like me. Everytime I say something I've done something or about to do something she always try to make her situation or doings better than mine. For example: I said I went to the mall today and bought my baby some boots, a coat, and about 5 outfits to start off for winter. She says I already bought my baby all his clothes, I bought him 3 pair of timerland boots, 2 coats, 12 outfits and blah blah blah. Another example: I have to go and order something out of the catolog for my baby, she says I order out of this (certain) catalog. Knowling she doesn't!!!!! We'll go to the store together. I go in there to get one thing, she goes in there and buy several items and calls me cheap. (Well I don't live with momma and daddy). I stay alone with bills and rent. I'll say my baby want drink that much water, she'll say my baby drinks water all day; especially bottled water. So what!! I wanna say.

Answer 1

Hey, you know what? I respect you for the fact that you are the one parent who has to take care of your kid, pays those house bills, work for you and your kid, and what not. Buying expensive apperal for kids is not important. It's how you are ablt to take care of your kid that counts. With this, you are able to teach him the good and right, guide kid through different paths, wisen him/her, etc. You are a great mother. When your kid grows up, he/dhe will value you, girl. Your kid will appreciate your hard work and dedication for givng him/her a good life. Hey, if I was to be in your situation, I would careless. Why? Because I'm not filling my kid with luxerious clothing and what not. In opther words, I'm not spoiling my kid. You are a great mother, and you know that than anybody else (and your kid will realize it one day). So you don't have to worry, girl. You just ignore what yourgirlfriend tells you. You, in your heart, knows that you are doing your mighty best to give your kid everything in his/her life. I wish you my very best, girl. Keep your head up. I must say that you are a strong woman for your what you are going through. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Some people feel important by one-upping people there talking to. It is a definite character flaw. I wouldn't worry about it, I can't afford a Harley like some of my friends. But I'm comfortable with what I have and am comfortable with who I am. Things don't make the person it's what is inside that's important. Obviously the person you're talking about has some pretty low self esteem and trys to compensate with things (real or imaginary)

For what its worth I would rather talk with you than her. I find those who talk a big game some what of a bore, so don't let it bother you. You're the better person.

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Answer 3

It's called self-aggrandizement, the person can only feel tall if they cut your head off, so to speak. I have some friends like this, they try to make their most ordinary activities sound so noteworthy! Obviously this young woman has a very poor self-image and has to always be "going one better." Ignore her, I'm sure other people find it just as annoying as you do. When she makes her brags, just smile and say nothing, that way you don't feed her ego. You may want to be to busy to spend much time with this person.

Answer 4

hon, I know the feeling! its a pain in the *** n really not worth your time, no matter what you do shes always going to try and out do you. i think its a (pathetic & annoying) self defence mechanism...because your out there supporting yourself and your baby, your independant and shes not. shes jealous of you. hold your head up and rise above it.

just because she buys (or pretends she buys) excessive amount of clothes etc for her baby, you provided the needs of your baby not the wants of yourself (ie, wanting yourself to look like your a better mum than everyone else just because the kid has stupid amounts of everything!)

the most important thing is to love the baby not to chuck endless amounts of clothes at it!

Answer 5

obviously she's a *****, a jealous *****. there's no point in telling her what you bought for your kids or what you're planning for your kids. just stay away from any topic that you know'll she'll want to better you. why not try letting her do the talking first then give her a dose of her own medicine...but then again who are you fooling...a fool her self.

Answer 6

She is a crooked lady and she needs to be punished. You need to be patient to bleed her so much that she will stop pestering you. try this : Even without shopping tell her you bought this and that worth thousands of bucks, Let her go shopping and spend her wealth. Continue this for some time and I hope soon she will realise and stop pestering you.

Answer 7

What if you confront the situation and say something like, "It seems like every time I tell you something, you say something in response that makes me feel like you are trying to compete with me?"

It sounds very difficult!

Best wishes from a grandma-aged person

Answer 8

i do agree with the answers you get for the question you posted..yeah, this woman sounds so jealous & so insecured..just try to smile & just ignore whenever she tries to brag about things..try not to be around her if you don't feel comfy with her..it's much better than hearing her brag about things! Ü

Answer 9

Sounds like she is trying to impress you and herself. It is very childish and rude.

I would just stop hanging out with her if it bothers you. If you want to say something just tell her that it feels like she is trying to make you look bad and you don't like it.

We don't all have mom and dad to live off of as adults.

Answer 10

call her bluff, brag about the diamond jewelrty you just bought your baby, let her outdue you-
ask to see her babies gems, then tell her you returned your child's rocks so you could feed them instead. Because you can't eat diamonds
-lol