2006-09-17 06:57:08 · 18 answers · asked by Linda G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that you're the most qualified to answer this question, don't you? If you feel ready to get out there again and try, this could be a very healthy sign. Social support, friendships, relationships...we all need those things, and it's natural to have the desire to connect.
Some people have a period of mourning/widowhood prescribed by their religion, immediate family, or culture, and others make the decision based on other things. Maybe you have young children to consider in making your decision, for example. I'm no relationship advisor, nor have I experienced loss of a spouse (hope some people who have will respond to your question), but I hear that the best thing to do is get out there slowly but surely. Seek friendship and companionship first though it might be tempting to rush headlong into something more serious. If you give it a try and then realize that you're not quite ready after all, that's useful information too.
All of this to say that you're the best judge of your readiness, and it seems best to free yourself of the shoulds and oughts (societal or internal or both) when you're trying to move forward with your life. It takes courage to take that next step. Wishing you the best!
2006-09-17 07:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by semper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Linda,
That is only something you can decide. Everyone is different. Obviously if you are asking the question it is because you are interested in dating.
If I became a widow, there would be no more dating. But that is to just let you know that everyone is different. Good Luck
2006-09-17 07:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes you to finish grieving. Of course, if you run into the perfect guy, then he just might help you move on faster. If you have kids and that happens before, say, six months to a year, you might want to take it slow or keep it low key for their sakes, if they're sensitive. But you can't spend your whole life grieving and you can't live your life for your kids, so at some point, you'll just have to go for it in spite of what other people think is proper, and you'll know when that is. You will always love and miss your husband, but he wouldn't want you to end your life with his.
2006-09-17 07:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel like it and wont go out on that date and discuss the past the whole night. Its a date, not a therapy session even if your date asks questions. Be brief and polite, dont get emotional about it for your date might not like this thinking your emotionally not ready to date. If this one time date turns serious then thats ok to start letting him on the whole picture and to cry on his shoulder but wait til there is a bond between you 2. Dont be looking for anything serious, go out on dates to get out and make friends and new relationships since your life has changed. Have fun and relax and dont feel quilty about going out. Good luck and my sympathies are w/you.
2006-09-17 07:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no specific time when you should start dating again. You should go out and date when YOU feel comfortable with it. Don't listen to others as they aren't you. Your departed one probably wants only the best for you and to see you happy. You will know when the time is right.
2006-09-17 07:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Bailey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months to 1 year
2006-09-17 06:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by sooners83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say whatever you are comfortable with. Everyone is different. If you have children, make sure they are ready before you introduce someone new into their lives.
2006-09-17 06:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how long you were married. Also, depends on when you are healed and ready and able to date again. Good luck
2006-09-17 06:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know when the time is right. just don't force yourself to do anything that you are not ready for it. and don't feel guilty. you have the right to be happy
2006-09-17 07:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by j y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and WHEN your ready. ANd dont listen to no one. GOOD luck .
2006-09-17 06:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋