Okay, this is for the ladies. Especially the lesbians. How do you tell the difference between love or friendship? Meaning, how do you know if you just want to be friends with another girl or whether you're in love. To be honest, all the friends I've had have been women I've been attracted to. And a lot of them i thought I was in love with. It's weird, I only have really attractive friends...lol. is that shallow? haha. Anyway, Do you find that happens to you? I just gotta say that my friend right now is really hot. I just had to tell someone. I mean, she's beautiful inside and out.
2006-09-17 06:35:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
so who doesn't have "crushes" on their hot friends, even if it is all of them!
sometimes we feel we love a friend so much we would do pretty much anything for them, however, "thinking" of doing and doing is the difference.
when it's friendship, you actually think about things more, when you are in love you just do it, for example; if your friend is in a tight spot and needs help, if she is your good friend and you love her as that you help her but you look for alternatives.
however if this friend is the person you are in love with, you find the way to solve her problem YESTERDAY!
2006-09-17 06:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by sexychia35 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That looks like an easy question, doesn't it? The trouble with it is that the word 'love' can mean so many things, and some of them are really not Love at all. A friendship should include real love, and I think friendship is the base for all kinds of relationships. Being 'in love' is a kind of a high that is not always really caring about the other person's needs or feelings, and it is a high that like all highs fades eventually,, while a real friendship can survive all kinds of feelings, ups and downs, because the base of a true friendship is also true Love. So the real question is... is it a real love that honestly cares about the well-being of the beloved? or is it feelings that are more about my own happiness and wanting the other person to be what I need, and jealousy, and possession and stuff?
2006-09-17 06:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by mary_n_the_lamb 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, this is a problem that I also have issues with. I am very picky about who I choose to call my friends, so naturally I'm very close to those few (whom I feel I honor with the title of friend). So, if you're somewhat like me, and you don't analyze the situation, you might get a *bit* confused as to what exactly you're feeling.
But- there is MOST DEFINITELY something that changes when you start becoming attracted to a friend, and it changes even more when you are full-blown in love with her.
The way I've experienced it is a gradual intensification of feelings for the friend in question. At first I was just glad to see her every day in (high) school- I had so much stuff to tell her! Then, I was just happy to be around her- I'd spend hours with her after school every day, "keeping her company" until her mom got there. Now, I am in a freshman in college, and she is a senior in high school. I have scheduled my classes so that I can go to her at her lunch time every Friday. Long bus ride, ten miles of bicycling: all so I can see her. (Let's not even get into how much I call her...)
Yeah. Maybe you aren't so stalkerish about the friend in question when it happens to you... but are you seeing some kind of resemblance here? If so, you are definitely NOT in the "I just want to be friends" mindset anymore. Analyze the situation/your feelings! Don't wait for them to find you... (like mine did- at senior prom where I finally got it through my thick head the exact nature of my feelings of her when I realized she would be spending the night with her date and not with me.)
P.S. I understand completely when you say that your friend is beautiful inside and out. It's the same with my friend.
2006-09-17 15:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by dragonheartsong 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would die for someone you love. You would hold out your hand for a friend, and try to save them. But if they slipped, you would send nice flowers to the funeral.
Sorry, your question reminded me of the above, something a friend sent to me a long time ago.
Physical attractiveness is only one small part of any attraction. Love isn't about one thing, its about how you respond to the whole package.
2006-09-17 07:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friends you make outside of work are usually made because something attracted you to them in the first place so it's not weird at all. If you can't tell which way you feel pick one and see what happens
2006-09-17 21:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust me you know the difference,and you don't cross over that line with your friends unless you wanta' loose their friendship! You must be one that falls inlove easy!
2006-09-17 15:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well the way you are decribing her it souds like you like her. its very confuseing i love my friend and we are both bi but it a friend love. i wont want her to be my signifcant other just a really close friend
2006-09-17 07:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a spit and a swallow..just kidding..friend ship is when you dont want to sleep with person and love is...you want that person as you lover...your friend sounds great nile her i would ..but then agian i am pig..later..
2006-09-17 15:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kingofreportedabuse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you are shallow. how old are u, 12?
2006-09-17 10:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEXE
2006-09-17 08:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by rhBoy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋