I understand that there are different levels of discipline.
For those that spank thier kids,what behavior would make you resort to corporal punishment?
2006-09-17 06:35:36 · 10 answers · asked by Mary C 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I feel spanking should be used when all other outlined disciplinary actions fail. You need to make your children aware of the consequence of unacceptable behavior BEFORE they act out. Be consistent in your discipline. Don't threaten them out of hand with corporal punishment or it looses it's impact. Also when you need to use it as your last effort to correct bad behavior, do it with as little warning as possible. The sudden action of corporal punishment will have a much more dramatic shock value to the child to show them the seriousness of their infraction. Observe the way a dog, for example, suddenly snaps at her young. It appears savage and intense, but does little actual harm to the pup, but it knows that was something it should not do again anytime soon. If you feel the need to use corporal punishment, make sure that you are not just reacting out of frustration or frayed patience. Be in control, or it will control you. Never use it when you are upset, also refrain from using it if too much time as passed from the action that made you consider this option because the child will have a harder time associating the punishment to the behavior.
2006-09-17 06:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Children want boundaries, guidance, and love.They need consistency and routine in their daily lives. A child learns to expect certain results for certain behavior. So it depends on how the first care givers deal with the child's issues. A precedence is set and the child then expects a certain measure of discipline. this is why schools have problems . They are restricted from reacting in the way the child expects sometimes and the child's care giver may have changed sense the age of two.There is a time and place for everything. I have had the honor of being involved in the young years of many human lives. I do not believe any one should be hit but on the other hand if the child has been dealt with this way in the past sometimes they feel it is an only option. Any way it is not the behavior but the established routine that is important.
The bible says spare the rod and spoil the child and to that I say the rod was never used to beat the sheep, It was used as guidance and to pull a wandering lamb back into the flock. If one strayed from the group the Shepard would leave the herd to look for the lost one.
2006-09-17 14:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Old Witch 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is why our kids are so screwed up today.
Parents don't spank their kids when they need to be spanked.
You should spank them when their behavior elicites it.
Spanking leaves a memory in the childs head of cause and effect at young ages they do not know right and wrong and if you just tell them NO or give them a time out they never will learn.
These 2 responses tell the child if this is all that happens lets see what else I can do.Children will always push limits that is how they learn if there are no consequences to their actions they will not learn (a time out is not a consequence).
2006-09-17 14:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by utg_45 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, spanking is mostly only useful on young children who do not yet understand words. As they get older, 7 -8 maybe, they ought not to need spanking.
Secondly, the only two things I spank my kids for are doing something dangerous, like going into the street, and defiance.
If they do something dangerous, I want to make them so terrified of that thing that they will never do it again. This involves mostly psychological things like showing total displeasure and telling them the consequences of doing it, along with the pain of a spanking to put it into their minds. They will associate the dangerous act with all of these bad things and will have the 'self' discipline to not do it again.
I also spank away defiance, because a child only has to defy their parent one time to become seriously injured or killed.
2006-09-17 13:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
when my wife & I were discussing corporal punishment we decided against after we learned that all...I repeat ALL (as in EVERY) prisoner in jail was physically punished as a child.
I don't think it's necessary
2006-09-17 14:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ted Jordan 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think I would have to have children first.
2006-09-17 13:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by reverenceofme 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
direct defiance and dangerous actions
2006-09-17 14:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by bopddbop 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd never ever spank my kids.
2006-09-17 13:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by superboredom 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Anything that shows disrespect towards me and others.
2006-09-17 13:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ckarri` 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
nothing cause i would not spank them
2006-09-17 13:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by desiree c 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋