Those differences include: race, age, education, job,background history....
But in spite of so many differences we can understand eachother!I think married persons can answer better than singles.
2006-09-17 06:28:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's possible, I guess. But I would approach at extreme caution.
Many things are easier to let slide by or be even misunderstood before marriage. Being "In love" can carry and handle and overlook a lot of problems before marriage. Watch for red flags before marriage from either one of you..even if they are in your mind, before your eyes, or in your heart. When they come up, discuss it.
Don't bury issues or let them slide.
Before marriage, you need to best friends emotionally, spiritually,
mentally, be very comfortable with in each other's presence,
be able to talk about any issue and share several mutual interests. Some time apart and and plenty of time together to share and invest in each other. Are your faiths deep and would they compliment each other...or end up being a thorn? Any habits...
can you take the pressure the oldside world will dish out.
What does God say about this relationship? I want to believe you want His blessings on it....and that it is His Will.
Be at peace with God and have an intimate relationship with God first. Same with your friend. Can you pray about this together.
It's may be easier for you now, because you might not have the stresss of being totoally independent and know youself well enough. .may have some some friends you run around with now...but will probably drift apart as time goes along. What will happen when it just the two of you...often apart from outside support? when the rubber hits the road.
Have you been able to handle conflict in a positive & constructive way? That is a big indicator in the success of a relationship. If you say you never argue and never disagree out, that is fairy tale land. You must be able to confront each other in loving and kind ways and respect boundaries. To talk about the most sensitive isuues and borth large and small diffences.
Can you laugh, sing, celebrate, help carry each other's burdens,
comfort and be supportive of each other?
A lot to think about and worth time contemplating and praying about.
2006-09-17 06:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, i think love is enough to make the relationship work, aslong as there IS love. Me and my boyfriend are of different races, background, ages and professions but we love each other and WE are sure we can make it work, no matter what anybody else thinks. (though we get a lot of criticism and weird looks when we go out). we've learnt to deal wih it and in the end it's all about your own happiness, so just make sure that whatever you decide on makes you happy!!!
all the best to you and your love, take care,
i hope this helps ;-)
2006-09-17 06:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by blithe_vow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if two people really love each other, then it can work. Communication is key. Just talk to each other and keep the communication lines open between the two of you. Besides, having differences is a positive thing. That way you can learn from each other and compliment each other's strenths and weaknesses.
2006-09-17 06:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Waiting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and I can tell you that as long as you can agree on your lifestyles, such as how to raise a home, kids, and basically how to compromise with each other. I say go for it. I can tell you that the only time my husband and I argue is when I think he's drinking too often, or he's not disciplining our kids right---you know, the basics. If you can agree on those things then good for you!!!!!! Good Luck!
2006-09-17 06:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Love is definitely not enough. You need some other kind of connection.
2006-09-17 06:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
differences is what makes us individuals,
Love is love,,, takes two people to make a relationship work
2006-09-17 06:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one but yourselves can answer that one... If you can deal with all the overall distractions and still love each other and be happy then go for it...
2006-09-17 06:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband have many similarities, and differences, we enjoy what we have in common, and also compromise with eachother about our differences, that's what love is, you compromise with one another, and share everything else.
2006-09-17 06:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how much you can handle the differences, because love isn't always enough
2006-09-17 06:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love isnt enuff, i love my ex, but cannot live with her, she gets on my nerves with almost everything she does and yet i love her to peices. . .
go figure
she want me to move in (again), I just cant do it, cringe !
2006-09-17 07:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋