Does anyone else see weddings or the act of marriage as useless??

Question

Why do people feel they need to have a signed piece of paper to say that they love one and other?

Then there is the wedding. For the most part the biggest waste of money as in most cases people spend all that time and money for 12 hours of being the center of attention when they could spend the money on starting a life together. ie, a down payment on a house or car...!

Is it just me folks or are there others that believe similar to me. Do not say I will grow into the idea, as I won't! I will never be married and will not have a wedding. I am more than happy to find a life partner and settle in in that fashion.

Yes, I am not having children though either (that is another story though) so still no points proven...

Answer 1

i think its bshit u know. i mean u can be in love but to get a licsen to tie the knot? wat a load of crockshit is that huh? thats ovekrill and then theres the tension. u can only deal wth her or him for so long that before u know it divorce happens. hony i want thse drapes. no get white. no get black. i mean seriously wtf. its like a ******* baby boom u know. marriage should be banned. its f ridicolous. i will always hate marriage and yea i agree wit the questinare. love is like crack. one u start u can never stop. once u get married ul overdose only instead of u feleing shitty or it killing u it makes ya feel good. finally a question i can relate my opinions to sumone that i think is koo. cheers ashley*

Answer 2

Well, I agree and disagree. I have to make this quick Luv 'cuz I have to throw the brats in the tub after I post some more zany-insaney questions.

I agree that it's disgusting the amount of $$ people spend on the weddings themselves. It makes me sick that people spend 50 grand on a flipping ceremony and there are children on our own city streets RIGHT NOW starving and in need of warm clothes and medical care. Our wedding was very humble - I think we spent less than a thousand, and we had a pot luck dinner at our apartment with family only.

But there are good reasons for getting married, I believe CK raised some excellent points on this aspect so I'm not gonna be redundant.

But yeah, weddings, showers, housearmings, all that rot - they've all become pretty sickening examples of conspicuous consumerism. Ugh!

Answer 3

Never say never! You are young ..right? When you mature you will find there are reasons for marriage, like giving your children a mother and father...legally!

I do agree that sometimes too much money is spent on weddings. I would be happy with a intimate wedding and a reception. And use the rest of the money on a down payment on a house ...but who can afford a house nowadays! Sometimes there is to much going on with the superficial stuff and not enough of the deeper meaning of why two people are coming together to spend the rest of their lives together.

Answer 4

There are legal reasons to marry. The piece of paper isn't what's really important in my marriage. We had a committed relationship before we married. We spent maybe $2000 on our wedding.

1. Having children is a good reason to be married. Some states require a father to petition the court to be added to a birth certificate. If something should happen and the father hasn't established parternity, the grandparents could swoop in and take custody of the child with him having little or no recourse against them. If you are the male in the relationship in some states, the woman could up and leave with the kids and you would have NO rights to stop her unless you've gone through the courts to establish paternity whether or not your name is on the birth certificate. In Utah, she could place your children for adoption without your consent.

2. If a partner should become very ill or die, the other person has no legal rights to visit, care for, or make arrangements for them unless a living will, or will has been made. Let's say your life partner gets really sick and is hospitalized, their family could bar you from seeing them. If they die, they could totally exclude you from decision making or from the funeral entirely.

3. Health insurance

4. Lower income families actually pay less on their taxes when married.

5. You also would have no legal rights to things in their name. ie. If they put the house in their name only, their family could take the house and sell it to pay for outstanding debts. The remaining money would be split between their immediate family which wouldn't include you.

There are plenty of reasons to be married. In that you are then recognized by law as that person's partner. There are a number things that you won't be allowed to do from a legal stand point as that person's "life partner."

Answer 5

somehow, at this age, i do sometimes see marriage as something useless! break ups, annulments, divorce & separations are very much rampant these days! i can't just see myself getting wed & then months later crying myself out just because my hubby has found someone else! however, life is a gamble & it does apply with love & marriage. it's all about taking risks..if it happens to me, then i'll just have to deal with it & just try again if the marriage fails..Ü

Answer 6

It's totally useless and a huge waste of money.
I don't need a piece of paper and a huge party to say I love someone.

I will never change my mind either. I was married once and that was more than enough for me.

Answer 7

I dont understand the large weddings, can go to a JP for marriage if you want to go that road,

We hear alot about marriage because of church. doesnt have to be that,, good luck with the life partner, even gay people are wanting to get married,, who knows what the reasons people think they need to commit to each other with a ring and some vows

Answer 8

Humans have tried many hundreds of ways to live and raise families over the last few thousand years. Nothing has worked as well as marriage. Perfect? Not at all. Just better than any other method. You are free to live as you wish, but why rule out what works best? Just as you can eat what you wish, as your want to eat it. But, since humans have lived healthier lives by eating sensibly, more eat sensibly. You CAN eat sugar and dirt only. But, most would say that it's silly to deliberately eat that way, because better ways of eating have already been found.

Answer 9

that's how you feel, you don't feel the need to get married that's your choice.
people getting married is to celebrate their love for one another, it's tradition, and plus when me and my husband got married, we eloped our wedding which means we didn't spend a lot of money on a wedding. we only spent a couple hundred on the ceremony, because it was just us, and 2 other witnesses. plus when you have kids when you're married, it makes it more official.
Marriage makes 2 people more secure in the relationship, rather than a life partner, because hey if you don't get married, and you have kids, if he happens to be the type of guy that just leave you after impregnated you, you'd have to raise the kid on your own.

Answer 10

Marriage is an institution and is not to be entered into lightly, wantonly or to satisfy one's carnal lusts.
Nor is it to be entered into without making someone a wad of cash - be it vicar, registrar, or minister.
It's all an expensive rip off.