My ex, after a long marriage, and years of counseling, decided to run off with a friend of mine. She's played pretty much every dirty trick in the book. She promised to have a mediated divorce, promised to not go after spousal, used me for free storage. Now the two of them, are sitting and laughing. I'm giving them half of my income, and have to move into a rented bedroom, (with my son 50%) because this is CA, and no fault state, and they use a computer program to decide who get's what. (She's sat on her *** for 7 months not working, and now is taking a slacker job.) My son is with them half the time. They are liars, and dishonest people. I would like to see karma happen, but I know it does not nesc. happen. How do you deal with the anger? When you see another sleazebag guy with your kid? When your Ex continues to lie and manipulate and litigate?
2006-09-17 06:13:39 · 12 answers · asked by Sad-Dad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel your pain and fustration. Been there not too long ago. But things got better with time. You have to let it go and not dwell on it otherwise it will eat you up!! Why are divorces so expensive? Because they are worth it!!
Rely on your friends....keep busy and focus on the kids. She's a nasty ho and she'll get hers soon enough. My ex is with a a coke head who beats her and she's on the verge of declaring bankruptcy.
Hold your head high and hold the moral high ground. Good luck!!
2006-09-17 06:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that is hard to deal with, One of my sisters went through about the same thing only her ex got custody of there son . He lied and cheated any way he could to get there son and used the fact she was going to school part time and working part time as a means to take and get custody of there son full time. he had a well paying job at the time but still ask for child support. My sister wanted to murder him she stayed mad all the time . Then when her ex remarried later he didn't want there son . The woman he married just couldn't or wouldn't except him. So my nephew ended up being shuffled back and forth alot. My sister did finally take him back to court and got abetter deal but the anger stayed with her for sometime. What worked in her favor was recorded talks she had with her ex that she used in court againts him. It went along way in relieving some of her anger. good luck.
2006-09-17 13:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by ret w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a hard thing, there isnt a easy answer, the best you can do is love your son 1000% and let him know you love him, call him EVERY day, if you can, dont let those jerk control you or make you miserable, you make yourself miserable by letting them manipulate them, just sit and watch about the child support though, AZ is the same way, calculates what the income would be if you were still married, then screws ya,
2006-09-17 13:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of divorce, it brings out the worst in people but the good news in time it will all settle down, it really will and the anger and bitterness will get better too, talk to others who have been thru it , they are the only ones who truly understand all the changes and feelings.Good luck to you...
2006-09-17 14:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a real tough one. I feel for you, like a lot. i can imagine how you must feel after all the bull....
you still have to let your son see his mother, thats the law i think. When you go to drop him off or pick him up, try not to actually see your ex buddy. tell your wife about this. in regards to anger, man, i don´t know. im kinda in a similar situation...i just try not to think about it.i mean, really not think about it.
2006-09-17 13:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by sevenmoreminutes7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to take a job as a volunteer in Africa. You will feel great because you are helping people and you wont have an income for a year or so.
2006-09-17 13:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Robert E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell your lawyer or whoever help you guys get a divorce! they don't deserve any money of yuors, they are nothing more than lazy pigs! I hope karma does happen. I wish it would happen to everyone, cuz I'm sick and tired of being mistreated also!
good luck!
2006-09-17 13:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move away and get a new life being stuck around the crap is just more torcher than its worth.
2006-09-17 13:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by Wendellp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sad isn't it. The courts are NOT fair. You just got to 'grin and bear it'.
2006-09-17 13:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have three options. 1, Kill her. 2, kill yourself. 3, live with it. Lousy? Yup. But, that IS the society we live in.
2006-09-17 14:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋