My wife and I have been having problems finacially and we cannot seem to agree with certain things. She likes to spend and I like to save and invest. Opposites do attract, but sometimes I just don't know how to handle this.
2006-09-17 06:11:19 · 7 answers · asked by Chuck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My boyfriend has a daughter who's husband works and she calls herself a homemaker. She shops and runs all day while he works. She is very immature and has no clue how to handle money. Its Christmas every day at there house and she is constantly borrowing money off her dad and doesnt re pay.
To make a long story short, her husband opened up his own checking and left her name off the account. He has obtained his own line of credit and she is not on it. He had to do something. They have 2 small children and someone had to get in control of the money issue.
If you love this woman and you intend to stay married to her, its time to seperate your credit and checking and all other money issues. Do not sign your name to anything financial.
Invest in your own name and always keep a "nest egg" she is not aware of in case of a seperation or emergency. If she wants to act irresponsible, its time to take control
Be firm and do not allow her to run you into financial debt you cannot pay back. She has to potential to ruin your credit.
I feel for you babe. Good luck.
2006-09-17 06:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask her if she is willing to save and invest and if she dont want to give it a try the make a step into getting on with your life. You dont want no one thats going to put you in finacial danger with your life and just leave. So think about it and if you love her then you will stay and work it out. If you dont feel that love for her anymore then tell her about it and find legal ways at solving it. Always think of yourself before others always.
2006-09-17 13:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by kilokilo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disagreements with live style, interest, preference are common to mention a few in marriages.
Its a give and take situation if you value your marriage.
But when you reach a point where both or either party starts to ignore and take a wouldn't careless attitude or constant pickings at the slightest chance, where you couldn't even find a bit of warmth in the relationship.
The picture is quite clear, means the end is nigh.
Better to see a lawyer before somebody do something foolish.
2006-09-17 13:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by davmanx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most relationships, there is usually one spouse who is better with money than the other. If both parties are willing, compromise...save some of it, spend some of it. If you continue to fight over money, then it will spill over into other parts of your life and you will find you are fighting over silly things, like how much laundry detergent you used, or putting the toilet seat down, and it probably has to do with your money issues. You asked "how do you know if your marriage is no more?" well a question like that means you are already in trouble. Most marriage counselors deal with debt issues etc. If you want to save your marriage, get counselling.
2006-09-17 13:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of experts on this subject. Also counseling for this.
I recommend having a talk about what long term plans the two of you have (the big house, children, vacations, retirement, etc.). Find out what long term big purchase really turns her on. Then ask her to think about that when she is out spending money now.
It's probably just time for you to splurge and take her out on a really romantic date. She may be spending money unconsciously because she doesn't think she's valuable to you anymore.
2006-09-17 13:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, everything can be settled if you just talk it out..talk to your wife & let her know how you think & feel about things..if she really loves you, she will respect your views & opinions..it's all about the give & take in a relationship..Ã
2006-09-17 13:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by -= Qtee =- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she spending her own money?
2006-09-17 13:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋