I am going through a very tough time in my life both realtionship and careerwise.So,when I look back and see the people I have chosen or the choises I made eventually all hurted me.
Now I like a guy,and his beahaviour is also hurting me.So how can I control this hurting chain?
2006-09-17 05:43:27 · 8 answers · asked by Annie R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd talk to the person and see if that helps, if not.. then you have to decide for yourself whether it is worth it.
Not everything in life is easy, in fact very little is. Your 20's & 30 aren't exactly as advertised on MTV. Just remember, you can't control everything, and the stuff you can change you'll still have a good chance of screwing up anyways! haha - God must have a British sense of humor?
2006-09-17 05:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by mr_r_bowman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes choices that aren't always the best or seem to backfire. But if you learn from your mistakes you learn to make better choices.
You can't control someone else, only yourself. You can take control by asking yourself some questions, evaluate your life, make a list of the pros and cons, if the cons outweigh the pros then you know where the changes need to be made.
Bad relationships are like cancer, they can continue to damage until it is cut out so to speak, so cut out whatever it is that is damaging. Sooner or later the life you live will be one that you love. Take it day by day, and don't beat yourself up over the things that can't be changed, just make a conscious effort to not allow anyone or anything hurt you any longer.
2006-09-17 05:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by makemesic3569 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick a guy that you like but isn't normally the type you would be involed with.. Find a man that could be your best friend you will learn to love him more then any of the men you have been hot for right from the get go because he will make you happy and noty hurt you
2006-09-17 05:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to the boy you like and try to work through the problems your having with him. And if there is any people that you didn't like or pushed aside a while back try to reconnect with them. And any choices that you made that was a mess up go back and try to fix them. If there is anything at work that needs to be fixed talk to your boss. It's all a matter of communicating.
2006-09-17 05:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Regan M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you can look back and see the choices you have made ended up hurting you; take not of that and choose a different set of friends and if it starts again, get out of that relationship before it happens again. learn to recognize the signs and protect yourself first. eventually, you will learn to trust your instincts and you will find happiness.
2006-09-17 05:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Texas T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all u need to rethink what u are looking for.make a list of the things u like in a man and then talk to people and really listen to them b4 you decide to date them ask questions and see if they meet your criteria.i know thats hard to do and physical atraction gets in the way but if u are going to find that mr right u need to do this good luck
2006-09-17 05:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by eddie w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First don't worry about dating right now and take care of you first. Once you have yourself straightened up then work on dating. You first.
2006-09-17 05:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what is you want. but you do have to worry a bout YOU first. What i've learned is that everything that looks good isnt always good for you.
2006-09-17 06:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Redstarr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋