my new BF just told me, his ex-gf pass away 3yrs ago. He say to have get over it, but at times he still will think of her. should i continue w him ?
i feel jealous. insecure after he say give him sometime coz he cnt seriously commit himself. Meaning to say he is trying to adjust with me entering his life. he want us to go by naturally without serious committment to prevent stressing ourselves. But he did say we never know where we will ended up ? i am disappointed with these words still. Now i am thinking if i should let go of the new relationship coz i am worry i might nt have the courage to left when my feeling goes deeper :(
2006-09-17 05:03:20 · 11 answers · asked by devil22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes he is starting to show more feeling for me. He dote me and call me everyday even in his busy day. Now we are planning to do some business, where he need me to help him coz i am the one experiences in this business. He told me maybe the business will give us more time together.
Is it for good or bad ? To mix relationship with business. ( capital will be provided by him only)
2006-09-18 04:50:30 · update #1
the death of his girlfriend may have devastated him emotionally. but 3 years is already a long time to get over it. the fact that he went into a relationship with you shows at how he wants to move forward and get over it. it could be that he is trying to not get too deeply involved as he might have that fear of getting hurt of losing somebody he has fallen so much for. if you do love him, be patient with him. everything is a gamble. you might want to gamble on this one if you think it's all worth it. even if he was not one who went thru that kind of sad situation, even if it was somebody else, you still are gambling once you start investing emotionally because there's no guarantee on what's it going to be in the end.
2006-09-17 05:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by marisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had lost my girlfriend in a motorcycle crash about 3 years ago, and she was riding with me, i just fractured my tibia, but she broke her neck... she died instantly... how can someone forget about it? but, she is dead, my present girlfriend is alive... there is definitely no reason to be jealous of a dead person. Sometimes i still think about her, but life goes on. Maybe you n your boyfriend is had just started this relationship, he can't be so commited... He is just scared something bad might happen to you, so he dares not to put all of his heart into you. Be patient, and soon you will understand the suffering your boyfriend is going through. I know how it feels... if you said you are disappointed in him, u are very wrong.... get to know him more, okay? I'm sure you will soon know how much he gives to a person he loves... he is just going through the trauma... he will soon love you if you show him that you understand, n not dumping him.
Good luck, girl...
2006-09-17 09:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your new bf must love his ex gf deeply that he is still thinking of her. Everybody will get jealous over such thing but at least he is frank with you.
You should give him sometime to think over carefully and I believe he will be able to judge if he is willing to continue this relationship with you. I think his mind is in turmoil and he need sometime to sort out but please don't change yourself just to suit him coz eventually you will find that you are unhappy with the relationship.
So what you need to do now is to give him sometime to think over before you made your decision as well.
2006-09-17 17:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, the alcoholism is a sturdy indicator that he's attempting to get faraway from regardless of discomfort he's dealing with (even if this is the annoying adolescence or you not being there). even if you 2 live at the same time do not have any effect on how dedicated you're to at least one yet another. You both are or you at the on the spot are not. i have considered couples be extra committed to at least one yet another that do not stay at the same time than ones that do. Proximity shouldn't impact your dedication. Your first bypass might want to be to be sure how a lot you adore him or perhaps in the experience that your are prepared to be there for him or not. in case you at the on the spot are not, you'll likely finally end up hurting him more effective than helping him in case you stay. once you've determined what you want, follow your determination. If he's saying that he needs an same element of dedication from you once he strikes out, provide it to him. in basic terms make positive he's conscious of you anticipate an same dedication from him. in basic terms make positive in case you stay, that you artwork with him to get him out of that alcoholism and to get him by regardless of thoughts he's having from his previous reports.
2016-11-27 20:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
What sort of characteristics are you looking for in a prospective boyfriend?
Is having his whole heart and him loving you deeply something tat is VERY important to you?
If so, then this 'injured soul" is probably not ready for you. You might want to consider leaving him.
However, if that is not the top of your list, and this person has many good qualities that you want in your ideal man.. then why dun you continue and see where it goes? Fight for wat you want.. it is the 21st century and we women do NOT have to stand there and wait for things to happen ;)
Jia you!
2006-09-17 17:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not give it a go?
You want him, he want you, but still loves his passed ex. I think that might work.
2006-09-17 05:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by celia3018 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him you will be there for him. just imagine if someone you are in loved with dies. if you dotn think you can handle, which i wouldnt blame you if you couldnt, then leave him. im sorry you are in such a possition and im sorry for your boyfriends loss.
i hope things work out
good luck
2006-09-17 05:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have commitment issues, just try to be happy together and see where it leads.
2006-09-17 05:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand by him if you care for him.
2006-09-17 05:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his ex died for god sake, if you love him than be there for him, what are you worried about that he will leave you for her? you got him
2006-09-17 05:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋