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is it ok for my husband to download porn on the internet? he has never told me he does it but i just happend to look at auzerus and there they were...........what should i do , should i get mad or it is it normal?

2006-09-17 04:55:01 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

61 answers

get divorce ROFLMAO just kidding of course tell him that it bothers you and he might understand lolol

2006-09-17 04:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 0 0

Why get mad? You may want to confront him about it, but getting mad will never help either of you. There is nothing wrong with someone being interested in pornography. You should try to become closer to him and understand him, not get mad. It is fairly easy to see why he has gone behind your back with it just from your question. So why would you get mad? It is your problem too if you view it to even be a problem. If you had a better relationship with him, he would not go to porn or if he did, he would involve you in it. This is a marriage problem really. Not a porn problem!

2006-09-17 05:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1 0

It is normal, and because of that personally I think it is OK. It is a part of human nature. Tell me when you see an attractive guy, do you admire that? Do you give him a second glance even? Do you ever have fantasies of other men actual or fictional? This would be normal and very human. A fantasy life adds health and vitality to real life (as long as it remains fantasy and doesn't become confused with reality). What would be wrong would to begin acting on them and breaking your marital vow.

The question is....is he cheating on you with other women? If he isn't and just looks at porn instead don't worry about it.

I have an uncle that likes to go to a strip show every so often. My aunt is fully aware of this and has been for the many years of their marriage. He has never been unfaithful and she has never tried to stop him from going. Possibly because she is secure in his love for her and knowledge that he isn't cheating.

2006-09-17 05:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Willow S 2 · 1 0

Pornography is what you make of it. It can be a simple form of entertainment or it could even be an addiction. The answer depends on whether you accept the idea or not.

If he has a problem with downloading too much pornography and not providing you with a healthy sexual relationship, then it is probably time to bring the issue to the table. If he is merely looking at a few images, then perhaps it isn't such a bad thing.

While many men or women would be disgusted by their partners viewing pornography, many have decided that porno is just a healthy way of exploring sexuality without being unfaithful to their partner.

2006-09-17 05:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by blackhalo80 2 · 1 0

This is not normal, but don't get mad - yet. Have a serious talk with him about porn, why you don't like it, how it makes you feel - disrespected, unloved, - whatever. Make your decisions based on his reactions. If he totally sees nothing wrong with it in his eyes - ask him why he got married. If it's no big deal to him and doesn't see at all why you are upset - ask him if it would be ok for you to go do that, or his sister, or daughter. I wish you luck with this.....

2006-09-17 07:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0 0

My husband does the same thing. I think its normal to a point. There is a fine line that he can't cross. The minute he is engaging in any type of conversation with anyone on line, then there's be trouble. He does it every so often. I think that its the same as getting magazines, etc. I know he does it and it doesn't really bother me. I know that when we're together, I am the naked woman ready for him, not the fantasy women on the computer. As long as he behaves, which can be very tempting not to, we're good.

2006-09-17 05:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by CrissKross 2 · 1 0

There are many factors to look at to decide what's "normal" But the most important factor is whay he does it and what does he get from seeing it. From there you can decide if it's normal. On the other hand you should talk with him, marriage is about comunnication, trust, and compermize. If you have all of those You'll be fine. If it bothers you regardless of his answers tell him so. And don't forget to tell him why (the truth) otherwise he might assume you're jealous of the woman in the pics and he'll just do it behind your back.

2006-09-17 05:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by foxxxy_pink_mama 1 · 1 0

Men and porn...yes is definitely normal....a man hiding porn is even more normal....a man watching free trailers on the Internet of porn is probably 9 out of 10...lol...a man that has a wife that is cool with porn is the greatest wife of them all...

2006-09-17 05:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think watching porn is normal. I'm a woman and I enjoy watching porn on occasion as well.
The only time porn isn't okay is when your husband starts trying to make these pornographic movies into a real-life situation and starts cheating or becoming so obsessed with the videos that he'd rather watch them then be with you.
AS long as it isn't effecting you and your sex life, then nothing is wrong with it.

2006-09-17 05:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1 0

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2006-09-17 04:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by decoyaryan 3 · 0 0

I don't mind that my husband looks at porn - BUT it becomes an issue when 1. He is doing it secretively and lying about it. 2. He spends countless hours online looking at it rather than just getting off to it. 3. The sexual/emotional relationship between the two of you is begininng to lack or fall apart.

2006-09-17 05:05:54 · answer #11 · answered by actresscye 2 · 1 0

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