I am currently with this guy who can't keep a job. WE constantly got kicked out of every place we stayed for the past year. I have a daughter with him and I want to leave him. I have no where to go, no friends (because he wont let me talk to them), my family members lives too far.. i have no job, no money, no phone,not even a license! I feel like I lost everything since I got with this guy... Any advice on how i can get back on my own 2 feet?? Or should i just stay with him and wait for him to get his act together? Does anyone know of any programs out there to help me??? if it helps, I live in the state of Georgia.
2006-09-17 04:44:10 · 8 answers · asked by Miss Me? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are many places that help I would try your local public health department - they will be able to give you all of your options. You need to get out of this situation - it is the best choice you can make for your daughter. She is not learning the correct leasons in life with all of the ups and downs. She should be the most important thing in your life, and decisions will come easy if you think about what is the best thing for her.
2006-09-17 04:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen what you are living in is called failure. The longer you stay with this guy the more frustrated you are going to be. Get on the phone and call your parents and tell them that you need help, and ask them if you and your daughter can come and live with them until you get back on your feet. Listen it is going to be hard. I do not know your parents, but I think they will send you money for you and your daughter to get on a bus and bring you to them, so they can help you. After you find a job and get back on your feet, you say you live in Georgia, look if you move somewhere, where jobs are plentiful, say Orlando Florida. There are so many jobs down there with the tourist industry, like Disney you could find a job and support you and your child. Really this is something that you should consider.
2006-09-17 12:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the "he wont let me talk to them " that i would concern me.
he needs to know you need stability and so does the baby there must be counselors around for this type of problem but if he is not willing to go and sort it out then you must do what is best for the child and YOU!!
I hope he is not violent, you don't say but you need to explore why he keeps losing jobs is it something you can give support and guidance plus help to overcome or is it he just does not care
You seem a very caring person so maybe tell him what you are going to do to help, do it.
But if it fail and he does not change.................
DO YOU WANT TO BE LIKE THIS FOR 20 years?
Good luck!!!
2006-09-17 12:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dial the phone an look for the shelter for you & daughter an my fingers are cross you & daughter are ok and make contact there to family or other functional things the boyfriend will be eugred on or if need helped along too. Hopfully
2006-09-17 11:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the saying says, you can do bad all on your own. You should call 311 and ask for the number of a nearby shelter. They will help you get back on your feet.
2006-09-17 11:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by special k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-Try and get a JOB close enough to where you live you can walk or ride a bike
2-Study to get your license in your spare time
3-Even though he wont let you call a friend try and keep it secret and call them on pay phones if they are your friends they will be there an will help you out!!!
2006-09-17 11:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact your local social services department and they should be able to help you or at least give you contacts that can help you. Sounds like you do need to leave the guy. Good luck
2006-09-17 11:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear girl, go immediately to your nearest social services(welfare) office with OUT him and they will be able to refer you to services for both you and your child perhaps even a shelter for immediate refuge . No he will never get his act together and your situation will only escalate. GET OUT TODAY if not for your self, then for you little girl...I am an old Gramma, believe me I know what I am talking about.......
2006-09-17 11:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by pondlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋