Are gay people not at all attracted to a women or were they shy towards girls in school and got into intimate male relationships and started liking it and percieve it as natural behaviour now? I cannot believe a man could not be attracted to women!
2006-09-17 04:40:35 · 17 answers · asked by Rajan S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've always been attracted to women and have always been comfortable around men. Shyness had nothing to do with it. I could get dates with men, but that thing of real desire and romance was simply never there. As far as I know, it was the same for the gay men that I know. Born that way, no choice or learning involved. Besides, do you really think all the social stigma would be easier to handle than getting beyond shyness to be with someone of the opposite sex? Hardly!
I'd say that you are totally straight. For gay people, being with the opposite sex feels pretty much the same as being with the same sex does for you - totally unnatural. We all are born with innate sexual orientation. That's the way of it and it's all natural.
2006-09-17 04:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break this to you, guy, but whether you believe it or not doesn't matter. The simple fact is that many men are not attracted to women, and never have been. The reverse, where women are concerned, is also true. Some of us are even attracted to both, that is reality. The idea that someone would be gay solely because they couldn't get a straight partner for some reason is not only condescending and offensive, it is scientifically invalid. A person's sexual preferences are normally determined well before puberty, some authorities put it as low as five, it's not a decision, it's a self-discovery. Alfred Kinsey, in his studies of human sexuality in the U.S., defined a preference scale: 0=physically incapable of responding to the same sex, 7=phyically incapable of responding to the opposite sex. Heterosexuals were those people in the 0-2 range, homosexuals were those in the 5-7 range. The 3-4 range were Bisexuals. He also found that 0s and 7s were exceedingly rare, that most people who considered themselves gay or straight were actual 1-2 or 5-6. As to whether it's natural, human beings are part of Nature, how can anything that occurs in Nature be un-natural? Add to this, the American Psychological Association in 1974, followed by the American Pschiatric Association in 1975, declared homosexuality to be, not only not aberant behavior, but a perfectly normal form of human sexuality. They did the same thing in 86/87 with BDSM. We are all of us as the Gods made us, and many much worse.
2006-09-17 09:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love a man or a woman. We are certain of this. Right? Now, what happens is that you can't imagine how a man wouldn't be attracted at all to a woman...Well just think it the other way around, with yourself. Could you possibly feel attracted to a man? If the thought totally sickens you, bingo! It's the same with lesbians being attracted to men or gay attracted to women and so on and so on. (Although I think you can notice the beauty in a woman or a man regardless your orientation, but that is another story, don't want to mix you up!)
2006-09-17 06:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Aeroplane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a pretty individual thing: a lot of people see sexuality as a spectrum. Most people fall somewhere in the middle, whereas the extreme ends have only a very few people. But, because of our language, and the labels we apply, they are forced to call themselves "bi" or "gay" (and there's a lot that goes into which of those is more acceptable etc too; won't get too into that). So, there may be some people who's attractions you might refer to as "bisexual" but who identify as gay and don't date the opposite sex. The short answer, though, is: most gay people aren't SEXUALLY attracted to women (we can find them aesthetically pleasing sometimes, but...I think puppies are cute too. Doesn't mean I'm into them sexually). Some of us can't believe that a man could not be attracted to other men; there's zero logic in that, so you might want to try to get over it.
2006-09-17 18:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay men do not sexually respond to women. That's not the same thing as responding sexually to a person of either gender that you love or care deeply for at the time. Many gay men, like lesbians were married to heterosexual partners and produced children, so obviously the equipment worked.
Sexuality is about more than the physical act, and that's what gay men and women respond to, the whole package (pardon my pun).
Yes men can not be attracted to women. And women can not be attracted to men.
I personally am only attracted to men who are dressed in womens frilly underthings and CONSENSUALLY trussed up like a turkey, blindfolded and gagged. My personal relationship however is with a woman.
2006-09-17 05:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Ihave been interested in both, but sexually I am MUCH more attracted to men than to women. I find it easier to talk to women and relate to them, but when it comes to sex.....it's all about men. I know women are beautifull, and sexually attractive, and the CAN get me aroused, but it is so much easier for a man to do so. It had nothing to do with being shy in school. I had friends. I have friends. I just...am attracted more to men. Not ALL men, just like straight men arent' attracted to ALL women. Some have it, some don't. But, alot of it probably has to do with the wiring of the brain being different for homosexual people than that of heterosexuals, and perhaps some difference in chemicals such as hormones, or what not. It may have to do with events in our lives, it may have to do with genes, it may be many factors. I DO know that women are attractive, but all in all, if given a choice, I would choose a man. It's just the way I am.
2006-09-17 05:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never shy. It just didnt interest me. No. I just felt attracted to men, acted on it and i liked it. If u cant belive men cannot be attracted to men well ure wrong. I need a man to satisfy me both physically and emotionally. Its in the attraction.U cant because its not possible for u. Well not sexually. I can get attracted to women at times, but it just doesnt satisfy my needs. Sorry this is long, but u need to understand the concept of "different strokes for different folkes". Like i dont see how u cant be attracted to men and be satisfied with women, its different for u! Hope i helped.
2006-09-17 04:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throughout my life I have never once been romantically interested in a woman. In school, I had a balance of friends of both sexes. I had "girlfriends" growing up, but they were little more than close friends. There was never any attraction to them other than that which existed between me and all of my friends. Once I started figuring things out a bit more, I still kept girlfriends for safety purposes...most of my friends even became females for a few years.
To frankly answer your question, considering women in any sort of sexual way completely disgusts me (no offense to the women reading this).
2006-09-17 04:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by sailordelta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That YOU cannot believe who others are attracted to says a lot about your brain power....and what you are saying is not very complimentary. You are classifying yourself as an idiot who can only see from his eyes. I, for one, would not want others to know I am that stupid. Perhaps in the future, you would be best served by keeping your mouth shut??? After all, the appearance of intelligence is half the battle. As it is, you are a loser all the way around.
2006-09-17 05:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that gay women are probably very attracted to women. Men, not so much.
What difference does it really make anyway?
2006-09-17 04:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋