I have known a guy for going on almost seven years now and hes wonderful. We both get caught up in our lives and sometimes will go a year at a time without really speaking. He has been nothing but patient with me and has asked me to move in with him many times over the years. I cant even bring myself to seeing him face to face becasue im afraid of getting into something that wont last. Seven years is a long time to wait for someone. I got scared because I basically cheated on him once and got pregnant and ran away from my troubles, but ended up having a miscarry, and am now living with a guy i barely know as a roomate and doesnt even pay his half of rent as promised.
I have been asked to move in with him again but Im scared to move on. I expect nothing but patience but I think iv dragged it on too long. Does anyone have any advice for my stupid A$$?
2006-09-17 04:34:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to move on. He deserves better.
2006-09-17 04:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man must really like you to wait this long for you . If he is so wonderful why don't you move in with him. Or live by yourself and date him .Get rid of the no good roomate that you have now. He is going to bring you down. Give this man that has been so patient a chance. At least date him. Then see where it goes. Good Luck. GET RID OF THE NO GOOD ROOMATE.
2006-09-17 04:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the obvious can be right in front of your face. Life is a chance in itself and you'll never know unless you take a leap of faith. Do you wanna 2nd guess or live w/regret after the fact? It is normal to be scared bcause you feel too "what've, could've, & should'ves" & that's okay. TALK to him !!!! Let him know your fears and expectations but don't set your goals too high (standards are okay)or you might disappoint yourself. Be happy w/who & what you are as a person, not male or female but an honest beautiful human being. We all make mistakes & yeah we tend to regret them; have you ever tried making a "pro" & "con" list? That might help you as well to see if the yes over rules the no. Don't let life pass you by, toots; it is waaaay too short. Of this I am 100% sure. Good luck !!!! XO
2006-09-17 04:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by betharoo63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not mean to sound mean or anything, but my best advice, reading your question, is birth control. Seriously, until you are in a stable relationship, there needs to be no other people drug into the unsettled. Seven years is too long. I mean, what do you want out of life? Sometimes it takes some serious self evaluation and determination, and the loss of a bunch of bull**** out of your life. You don't need to be with a man to be happy. Good luck!
2006-09-17 04:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by misteri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the single life is your preferance & don't mine males but getting hooked up once more to a real steady? Thank God I guess your not forced an live healthy and long! Best just being there and hope when you visit each other you are able to work to-gether.
2006-09-17 04:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a place of your own, or a responsible roommate and begin a relationship with this man. You dont have to go from barely speaking to him to moving in with him. Thats too much too fast.
2006-09-17 04:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will move in if he agrees to marry you. Come on, 7 yrs is too d*mn long to wait. Get things done and get it going. Get married already. Don't take no for an answer.
2006-09-17 06:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do have some advice: take him up on his offer before he stops asking, most fake men would have given up on you by now, obviously he's a keeper. Tell him today. Sounds like you have literally nothing to lose.
2006-09-17 04:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about this guy why not take the chance, if you don't do it you will never know what could or could not be. What is the worst that could happen. Life is toooo short to always wonder "what if "
2006-09-17 04:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by hawkesnest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think in your heart that you can make it work with this guy..... go for it. If you are having doubts about it working, dont get involved because it will probably only end with a broken heart. Let your heart guide you.... good luck
2006-09-17 04:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little co-dependent. Don't run to anyone, stand on your own two feet. If you really wanted him or loved him, nothing would stand in your way. Same on his end.
2006-09-17 04:36:56 · answer #11 · answered by GeekiGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋