My friend has a problem with a sister, who is constantly harrassing her. She is very rude to her, they argue then the sister who is rude speaks to my friend by this time friend has forgiven her. And the abuse continues again. She is now considering ignoring this sister completely, and telling her sister this as well, That they only comunicate by letter. Now if my friend sticks to these boundaries will it work and how long will this loony sister get the message and change her ways or even learn to respect my friend like my friend respects her.
2006-09-17 04:32:39 · 3 answers · asked by nicecupofteanicecupofcoffee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stick to it, it might work eventually. Also, try telling her once what she is doing, then when she does it again say "STOP!, you're doing it again." and walk away. Leave it longer and longer before any contact is made and eventually she'll get it. Alternatively get a big group of you to run and intervention the next time she starts playing up. Good luck.
2006-09-17 04:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by stevensontj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think boundaries are very good. Once created they should be continued or it won't work. I would suggest that if she wants to talk to your friend in a civilized manner, it would be OK to talk, but if she wants to be rude, then she should walk away and ignore her. I would suggest to her sister that if she is having a bad day, to let your friend know and maybe your friend could help her work it out before she gets to being rude.
2006-09-17 11:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your friend told her sister that she doesn't like the way she treats her. Maybe she should try that. If that doesn't work, then by all means, communicate by letter for a while and see how that works. GOOD Luck!
2006-09-17 11:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by yourqueenofall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋