When I have a problem or my friends approach me for help, I tend to get excited and obsessed with a solution that I think of and I totally seem to ignore the drawbacks or the negtives of the approach to the problem. The nature of the problems that I am talking in general involve emotions and relationships. I actually begin to dream about how fantastic the solution is and the praises I will be getting from my friends for handling the situation brilliantly, but more often than not, the 'brilliant' solution backfires and I feel very disappointed for letting myself and my friends down. This has happened several times and I keep telling myself to learn and do better next time, but somehow I never am able to bring myself up to it. Do I have a disorder? Only serious answers, please.
2006-09-17 04:27:39 · 10 answers · asked by Krishna 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No disorder really .
It is just that the approach requires a bit more clarity.
Solutions to external problems require just good logical , analytical ability, coupled with sharp observation, cohesive presentation.
Relationship and emotions deal with inner aspect of life, and require better than logic. Intuition with intelligence, not triggered by expectations, negative emotions, proper contextual feel of the situations, people etc are pre-requisites. This comes often by experience, though not necessarily so !
Normally, men are more logical oriented, and women intuitional. You can notice this from observation that it is mothers who handle the irritant baby better than father. It is jumping into wrong conclusion that it is due to feeding dependence that children draw comfort easily from mothers. The same mother has problems with her mother-in-law , who also can do well with baby grand-child! And surprisingly, when a man tries to settle any dispute between two ladies, he ends up getting utterly confused. Logic fails That's all !
If this understanding comes as experiential, then handling relationships and emotions becomes easier.
2006-09-18 21:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a very nurturing personality. Noone can be correct in guessing the outcome of their handling a situation, not can they always know the exacts of the situation they are trying to solve, since so many factors may come into play that may cloudy the reality of the situation you are trying to resolve. However, your admitted obsessions in this nurturing trait, may tend to become overbearing, and may hurt relationships you may have in the future very severely.
2006-09-17 11:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by For sure 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem, but not a big one. You have mild obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Get evaluated by a psychiatrist (M.D.) to determine if it's physical or biochemical. If that's ruled out, get short term therapy.
Untreated OCD gets worse over time, so it's important to nip in the bud now. Recognizing that you a problem is a great first step.
2006-09-17 11:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by CittyKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have a disorder. You're just eager to help. Sometimes without realizing it, you tend to want to fix everything and make it ok, or another way to look at it is, maybe take control somewhat. Letting go of control is the hardest thing to overcome. What you might consider is proposing options, versus solutions. That way you leave it open for them to choose if they want, and you aren't raking your brains for all the possible solutions. Part of it is letting go of the outcome, of the control. Just relax it's thier life. Just be there for them. hugs
2006-09-17 11:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have a disorder at all, unless trying to do something nice is a new type of disorder. At the same time, you have to start respecting your friends more. It's ok to give them advice sometimes, but you should not get so personally attached to their choices. Ultimately these things are _their_ choices for _their_ lives and not yours, even if they are proceeding based on your advice. Respect their choices, even if you disagree, and be there for them when they mess up, without ever saying "Told you so."
2006-09-17 11:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, you're just a very enthusiastic person with some great (or not so great) ideas. If the solutions work out, pat yourself on the back and bow to the kudos. If they don't pan out, then go down in style and dramatically: Crash 'n' Burn, Baby!!
2006-09-17 11:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is much like giving answers here on Yanswers. I don't know about a disorder, perhaps just a bit obsessive. You can see how it works out, so you are on the road to recovery.
2006-09-17 11:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a serious disorder but a pretty harmless character trait that you share with a great many others.
2006-09-17 12:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you Just want to Help but you try to hard and you have them do what you would do if you were in the situation,then what might work for you won't work for who you are helping..
but your heart is in tight place trying to help,just try to make more than one option when you help.
2006-09-17 11:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by steve 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like to me you have a self esteem issue...the need for approval...me too...
2006-09-17 11:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by lotusdell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋