What should a mother do if when her teenager moves out on his own and does not want a relationship with her?

Answer 1

Ask God to forgive you for being a bad mother. Do your best to figure out what you did wrong. (And for crying out loud, don't try to play the victum here. Just be honest about how you screwed up!) Then change your attitude and behavior. After your child has had a day to calm down, go and apologize for your actions - or lack of action... and be sincere. Your child may or may not accept your apology, but they still NEED you to apoligize!

Most children adore - or at the very least - LOVE their mothers! (Even the ones that complain the most!) If your teenager is disowning you, then there is a real problem.

Answer 2

It all depends on how old this teenager is. If 18 or 19 let them go. Make them aware that you are their parent and you will always be there for them and make sure they know they are always welcome back home and let them go. Although it maybe hard but be supportive of the decision they have made. Hopefully your offspring will understand they will need mom or dad from time to time just make sure you are there to help.

Now if your teenager is 15 or 16 then legally they can't move out on their own. They will have to deal with it until they turn 18.

Answer 3

Wow. That's complicated. Wish you would've included why she doesn't want a relationship with you anymore.

First of all, I'm 18 and have already moved out of my house (and it was a personal choice- nothing to do with my parents), so him moving out is really not a big deal; although it might be a big deal to you. My parents miss me, but are okay with the move (I secretly miss home sometimes, too).

The big deal is his reason for moving out of your house, and why he doesn't want a relationship with you anymore.

I love my mom so much, and while we get along and love each other, we don't have that "mother daughter friendship" (I would never tell her that, though, it would hurt her feelings very badly). Why don't we? Because of her. I can't go to her with any of my problems because she would freak out. If I wanted to tell her that I wanted to go on birth control or start having sex, she would start to cry. If I came to her with a problem, she would freak out and think that I'm going to end up in jail. If I told her I wanted to lose 5 pounds, she'd think I have an eating disorder (seriously). Now, remind you, I'm and A student and a manager at a retail store- I have a very good head on my shoulders: she has no reason to worry. Point is, we don't have that relationship because of her (not that I'm saying your son leaving is because of you- I just wanted to give you an example).

Now, I can't completely help you out because I don't know details. Why is he moving out? What happened? Etc. But he might have hostility in him for whatever reason and just be taking it out on you. It could be a million things- could be mostly his fault, could be mostly your fault, etc. Basically, if him moving out is your fault (you do drugs, you hate his girlfriend, you annoy him and control him), then take a look at yourself. If that's not the case, then you need some way to communicate to him and explain that he could at least tell you WHY he doesn't want a relationship with you, and what you can do to fix it.

Best of luck. I did what I could with the information you gave me. Hope it all works out!

Answer 4

If your teenager is not in any danger then just make sure that they are aware that you are there if they need you. Being on their own is not always a bad thing. It could help them grow up and appreciate what they had as a child. Some people are ready to leave the nest earlier than others and if they are they will. If not as long as they feel welcome they will return.

Answer 5

it would depend on what led up to the move. if the teen doesnt want anything to do with her, leave him alone for a while. he has never been out on his own before and doesnt know the concept of paying bills and keeping food on the table. it doesnt take long for him to miss real food. he will call eventually.

just tell him that you love him and when he is ready to talk, he knows the phone number. thats all that you can do really.

Answer 6

give him some space. he's maybe angry at u for some reason, so let him calm down, don't contact him for a while, and then in a year, or whenever you think it's cobnvinient, call him, and try to make him understand that you love him and that you want him to come back home or at least to see him once in a while.... good luck! :)

Answer 7

Let them go it's called flying the nest, don't worry it's part of the growing up process as hard as it is you have to let go. Give it a while they will soon come back mature adults

Answer 8

Just give him his space sooner or later he will come back to his senses.Time heals all.It may take sometime but you will get him back.In the mean time if you want someone to talk to I am a good listener.

Answer 9

Keep the home fire burning and keep in touch with him/her. Let them know they are always welcome in your home and to call if they need help. Also, always remember them for holidays and birthdays. Nothing expensive but something thoughtful. Even if they return it conntinue to do so. Blood is thicker than water. Do this and they will eventually come around.

Answer 10

Continue to worry, but let things ride for awhile. Give him time to adjust to being without his mommy. It might take awhile, but I think he will have relationship with you sooner or later, hopefully sooner.