I've been with my boyfriend for a year, I was with my daughter's dad for 8 yrs. I'm unsure who I want to be with. My boyfriend has 3 kids from 3 different ladies, so there's a lot of trust issues and baby mama drama. I still love my ex as well.Should I tell my daughter's dad that I moved on. Should I try to make the family thing work again and leave my boyfriend alone? I am so confused. One day I want to be a family again, the next I'm enjoying myself with my man. I left my daughter's dad because he didn't appreciate me. I'm scared if I go back it will be the same. Can I get some advice???
2006-09-17 04:25:07 · 12 answers · asked by special k 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would take some time away from both men and get yours and your daughter's life straightened around first. You have to know what you want before you need another person to add to the confusion. I have been through the same situation with my children's father...never appreciated me, always would come home from work and sit on his *** and expect me to do everything including taking care of our kids. He wanted nothing to do with any of it..all he wanted was to eat, sleep, watch tv, and yell at the kids. Then he would act like I shouldn't be so tired or pissed off. Please listen to me...take some time for just you and your daughter and realize that you both will be fine without a man in your lives. Later on down the road when you meet the right man you will know it. He will treat you like a queen and your daughter like a princess. You need time for just you and your daughter needs some mommy-daughter time. Forget the men for a while. If you would still like to see the men...then start at the beginning...start back with just dating...and see where it goes from there...but don't just let them move in with you or you move in with them. Good Luck *hugs*
2006-09-17 04:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, girl!!!! What kind of punishment are you trying to bring on yourself? LOL!!! The guy with the three kids by three different ladies--- shouldn't that clue you in to the type of man he is? Why would you even want to get in on that mess? Great sex or whatever-- that is a HUGE MESS that will ultimately f*** you up. Trust me on that one. If you have a man that has only had a kid with you, and you could be happy together, go with him. I am not sure what you mean by he doesn't appreciate you. I mean, does he cheat on you or something? Then don't get back with him. If this doesn't work out, seriously, chill out on the man thing, one will come along soon enough. Also, you need to put your daughter first and not your love life. Nothing is more disturbing to your child than momma always on the prowl, and all these different men coming and going. Ugh. You have a lot of decisions to make, so choose wisely. It's not just you involved.
2006-09-17 04:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by misteri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice is to never look back, just move on and find a man who doesn't have the commitment issues that your current boyfriend has.
2006-09-17 04:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making the statement "I have to be with a man". Ever thought of being alone and figuring out what you want with a clear head? There might be a man out there who provides a life without all the questions and doubt.
2006-09-17 04:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by GeekiGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off ,,you dont need any man to be in your life to take care of you and your daughter. You can do it on your own! Dont depend on any man. I dont think its a good idea to go back with your daughters dad. He doesnt sound too stable at all. And if he didnt respect you why would you want him back????????? He will NOT change.
2006-09-17 04:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE TIME ON YOUR DAUGHTER... DO NOT FEEL THAT YOU HAVE TO BE WITH A MAN.
neither one sounds right.
your boyfriend has three other kids, by three diferent women.
you childs father does not appreciate you.
so where does that leave your child in both situations?
how can a man that already has three show yours any love forreal??
and if you and her father srgue, how is that heakthy for your child?
2006-09-17 04:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time out from men. You don't know who or what you want, so take a while to be on your own and think about who you are before you go charging headlong into either relationship, as to be perfectly honest neither option sounds like its up to much, and you can do better.
Good Luck!
2006-09-17 04:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go back to the same situation before*** past is past *** and dont ever think your daughter's dad has turned into a new leaf...
give yourself a chance to be happy...dont be in a hurry , take your time ---i believe you will still meet somebody better than the 2 at present . you can tell via intuition when the right one comes***above all, pray for signs and guidance.
2006-09-17 04:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by jadfritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont start appreciating you, and he obviously has 0 sense of responsibility and isn;t Daddy material in my opinoin. Your ex, I dont have enough info on, but your Babys daddy will never commit and you will never be a traditional family, which is probably what you want.
2006-09-17 04:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by billyandgaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the x again, and see if things work out for the best.
2006-09-17 04:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋