2006-09-17 04:18:56 · 40 answers · asked by sally b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if that upsets u then yes. is he saying other stuff like that becuz if he is then yes pack up and leave and dont forget the credit cards and the car when u leave then see if he still thinks u arent soul mates
2006-09-17 04:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people obsess over the latest craze? So he's not your soul mate. Big deal.
Does he love you?
Does he treat you well?
Does he have a job and take care of the bills?
At least the ones he's responsible for?
Is he a good father? (If you have kids.)
Put things into perspective.
Does he come home drunk every night?
Do strange women call for him all the time?
Does he beat you?
Those are reasons to leave a man. Just because he doesn't answer a question the way the Redbook survey says he should isn't a reason to kick a perfectly good man to the curb.
I'm sure he has some redeeming qualities. After all, you did marry him.
2006-09-17 04:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by RepoMan18 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that marriages take work. No marriage is blissful and wonderful all the time. That's why so many marriages end in divorce because when things get tough (and there will be tough times) people bail out. The idea of "soul mates" is very fairytale. Lets be real. Love is a choice, and a commitment. You choose to stick things out even when you don't want to because you're commited to the person. That's what love is. Ask anyone who's been married for more than 30 years. There will be touch times, but getting through those tough times is what makes you stronger and brings you closer together.
2006-09-17 04:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...That is blatant unappreciation if I ever saw, that man does not deserve you and you do not deserve to be treated this way. If he in full 'calm conscience' (In the absence of anger or under the influence of drugs/alcohol) said something so terrible (even then it is not justified and you need to do some serious talking), then yes you should just pack your bags and leave. Does he love you? If he does love you and does not believe in Soul Mates then that is something different altogether. On the other hand if he does believe in soul mates and you're just not the one, i.e.: he is looking for one, then you should leave if he is not commited to you. Make sure you've got the full scope. Do you have kids?
2006-09-17 04:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why did he marry you in the first place? Kind of late for him to have second thoughts, don't you think?
Has he been acting strangely lately? Has he made other similar statements, become more critical of you, or has had diminished interest in intimacy?
My suspicions would be that he has thoughts of someone else, whom he 'believes' may be his soul-mate. Or, is he pining over an old flame that he couldn't be with - and is trying to make you feel like second-best?
Counseling may help root out the cause of his feelings, if he is willing. If he has no interest, then that should tell you that your marriage is likely headed for splitsville.
2006-09-17 04:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by oscarschic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe in soul mates, per say. But, was he angry when he said this? That comment came from somewhere. I would push the issue a little further before making a final decision to leave.
2006-09-17 04:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, certainly.
Apparently, he married you for the wrong reasons. Staying with him wouldn't be fair to you because you'd be giving way more into the relationship then you'd receive. Leave your husband since you're apparently not his soul mate and let him, years later, realize what he lost.
2006-09-17 05:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like an impulsive reaction. I think that you have a lot to talk about first. Review your entire relationship. Unless there's a lot more going on than you have mentioned, this seems drastic.
See if you can work it out or, if he is agreeable, seek counseling.
How many people in this world do you think can honestly say that they have found their utter soul mate?
2006-09-17 04:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!!! thats cold of him to say. I would definently want to know what ever posessed him to ask me to marry him in the first place and further more marry me. Me personally after i asked him those questions would I leave..oh yes..and as i was walking out the door i would let him know i would not stand in the way of him finding his soul mate.
2006-09-17 05:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, this sounds like words in anger. Let him cool down and then ask what is a soul mate?
2006-09-17 04:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by karen i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋