why is it difficult to make a true friend, and (if successful) difficult to keep one?

Answer 1

There is no such a thing as a true friend that is why you cant keep one.

Answer 2

I have a couple of TRUE friends and I tell them just how I feel about them.... It was not hard to find them, friendship "just happens".

I keep these friendships simply because I believe you cannot have a true friend if you yourself are not a good friend to begin with so the fault lies within the individual. The golden rule of "treat others the way you want to be treated" plays the most important factor here! Live your life by it and all things will fall into place effortlessly.

Some who think they are being true friends could possibly come off as being needy and pushy. This especially goes for in the chatrooms on the internet... ever notice the needy demands for friendship coming from some certain ethnic groups ? It is crazy to come into the chatrooms and beg for a friend. People from these countries have it all wrong on how others make friends and will be without due to it.

What one person wants in a friendship will differ from the person next to them. I want friends who are honest with me at all times !!! Don't just say things to make me feel good...If I look like crap on a certain day TELL ME...so I can go change that fact! Honesty is my most valued asset in a friend. I have no problem keeping these friends. Even when I tell them the truth and it hurts occasionally. I have noticed, those with a hundred friends are not good freinds, Those who have a few are true friends!

"What you are" IS "what you will attract" in friendship!

Live Friendly !! : )

Answer 3

While finding a "true friend" may often be difficult, keeping one shouldn't be. You have to "work at" friendships, just as you do for marriages. Probably the main reason true friendships dissolve is that you lose touch with each other over the years. People move and get separated.
But these days, with e-mail, there's really no excuse for not maintaining contact with a true friend. It's really up to you whether or not you keep a true friend.

Answer 4

Aristotle distinguishes between useful, pleasant and virtuous or good friendships. Friendships of the good are the most difficult to establish, but what is needed in such relationships are two virtuous persons existing in a symbiotic relationship. When two virtuous or good persons are friends, keeping friends becomes easier. Many of the factors that leads to deterioration of relationships are thereby assuaged. The Christian tradition would add that friendships are solidified when two people trust in God. As Jesus stated, true friends are willing to die for one another. The book of Ruth contains the poignant words, "Whither thou go, there I'll be."

Answer 5

There are such things as true friends, but to keep one you have to remember they are only human, make mistakes and get it wrong sometimes.
We have to be able to forgive friends, accept them for their negative side as well as loving them for their positive side. There has to be a balance so they don't walk all over you as some friends can-if they think they can-but usually a true friend will have a mutual balance and accept you in the same manner and both be able to give their opinions without offense taken.
Sometimes our friends are good for pointing out what we are blind to, and the truth can hurt. That's where it is good for us to be able to stop, think about what our friends say and then decide if what they say holds any truth. Usually there is, but we can't accept it so we turn our backs on them, but when can actually swallow our pride we 'know' they were right.
Not always, and sometimes we have to turn our backs on people because they weren't friends but our foes, that's life and it will always be the way of life but we can keep friends if accept them for both sides of their personalities.

Answer 6

My opinion is..a true friend is someone who thinks and does exactly as you do..it takes a long time to get to know they are exactly like you because you would both put up defenses due to being similar..As for keeping them as a true friend, because you are so much alike, sometimes it clashes..you just have to laugh with each other and move on, not create waves..(those that laugh together, stay together)...good luck..

Answer 7

this is a perplexing question for sure.

Actually it isn't that hard to make a true friend. Just look for Jesus. You will find a friend that you can trust, rely on, tell anything to, and he will never leave you. I promise....

Other than that, it's nearly impossible. However, i suggest you take all your expectations off your true friend and then you will keep him/her longer. Best wishes!

Answer 8

Because of expectation from a friend. No difficulty with one way friendship, if the love is deep enough, without any expectation or reward.

Answer 9

You have to BE a true friend to get and keep true friends!

Answer 10

Because you are dealing with humans. Even Jesus Christ was betrayed.

Best to understand that is how it is and deal with it accordingly. It took me a while to understand that. When I graduated h.s., my best friend for many years, just like a sister, stabbed me in the back for a guy. It hurt so much, but taught me a lesson.

Answer 11

Because we are all flawed, every single one of us. One must be able to tolerate the flaws of their best friend to keep them as "best friend" and sometimes that is hard. It's also hard for them to tolerate our flaws.