Do they last?
2006-09-17 03:17:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Affairs do not last. If you think about it the reason the affair began is because the people involved weren't getting something the needed emotionally from the person they were with. The person they started having an affair with was only fulfilling the one or two emotional needs the partner was not they will continue to only fulfill these few needs and the relationship will end fairly quickly.
2006-09-17 03:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by taterhater420 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My marriage began as an affair. We have been together 9 years officially and 10 unofficially and though we are a very happy and committed couple, I would not recommend it. We have had to work VERY hard to make ourselves respectable in the eyes of those that knew as well as ourselves. We have had to pay very close attention to the details of our marriage and not take a single thing for granted.
There have been a few times when friends of ours have decided to have affairs and thought it was a good idea to either share the secret with us or ask us for advise on how to carry it out. They tend to become pissed when we won't cooperate and accuse us of being hypercritical. What they refuse to understand that because we have worked so very hard, we value the commitment of marriage above all other things. Be that as it may that is still of of the legacies of our affair.
2006-09-17 03:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by David P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have read that statistically less than 7% last longer than five years. If cheating, an affair is the basis for the start of a relationship then why would either party think it wasn't ok to cheat in the future? So I tend to believe the statistics.
2006-09-17 03:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They work out great as long as they are just affairs. When one person makes the mistake of divorcing to continue the affair, the other person realizes what is going on and gets back with their spouse.
2006-09-17 03:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage is doing just fine and our relationship started as an affair.
2006-09-17 03:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Geez-How could you trust in having a relationship, and not worrying about them cheating on you later, if they cheated on their significant other to be with you, regardless of the excuse? My answer is that people who have affairs should not enter into a commited relationship, as they have already proven that they are unable to do such, at least from the "faithfulness" standpoint. And I don't care about "extenuating circumstances"-If you wanna dance with someone else-tell your present dance partner you're gonna dance with someone else now.
2006-09-17 03:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by For sure 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just an affair at the end of the day. when the passion fades out you might realise that you don't have much to look forward to
2006-09-17 03:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Vaness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know people who have lasted, and I have friends where it hasn't. I suposse it all depends on the REAL reason the affair began....
2006-09-17 03:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bodieann 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes they do, it depend on why both parties started the affair in the first place
2006-09-17 04:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not usually, because an affair implies that one party cheated, and they will cheat on the new relationship too
2006-09-17 03:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋