Ive known this guy on the net for over 4 years, we can chat for hours and i feel closer to him than i do to some of my friends i hang out with. Over these years i beleieve ive found my soul mate and have fallen in love with him. He tells me he loves me too. I know things could be very different in person, but do you think it is possible to find love on the net? A big problem we have is distance i live in uk and him in usa. Do you think i should meet this guy? and is love really worth leaving your friends and family behind for... Has anybody been through something simular to this?
2006-09-17 03:07:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
be very careful
good luck
2006-09-17 03:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....That Is Quite A Dillema. Best Thing To Do Is Get To Know This Person Fully. Know What He's Like When He's Mad, Annoyed, Depressed, Etc. Obviously, When You Chat Online With People, They Try To Be As Polite As Possible. When You Meet Them, They'll Probably Be The Opposite In A Day Or Two. If You Can Deal With That, Go Visit Him On A Vacation(or vice versa) So You Can Get To Know Each Other For What You's Truly Are. (and be on the safe side, if something ain't right, don't do it. plus, always let someone your close to know where you are at all times just in case anything happens...)
2006-09-17 10:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Can't Make A Good Avatar!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met this guy on the Internet and we talked for hours and we got along very well. When I met him, I didn't feel the same, not because of his looks, because he was a very handsome person even better than his pictures. It just didn't click for me in that department.
I know of those who have found love on the Internet dating sites. I also know from experience that long distance relationships do not work.
If it were me, he should make the effort to visit you if he wanted to, but you should not have high expectations. I found there are some good friends that I share things with on the net, but that is as far as it goes, especially long distance. If you were closer, I would say meet him and see what happens.
Would either of you be willing to move to each others location if things went further?
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-17 10:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel about the attraction to someone you've never met, I got my own story. However do be aware that it's not love in the truest form, it can't be because you've never met. There is a thing known as chemical attration, that has to exist before love can.Theres nothing wrong with meeting this person as long as your not planning on just up and leaving and no one knows what happened to you. Have him come to your country meet you and all your loved ones. If this relationship is ment to be then he'll come. If money is a issue then your both outta luck on ever meeting. However what ever you decide I wish you safety.
2006-09-17 10:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by luvofxanth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok im going to say this again. I met the love of my life over the net,,,2 yrs ago. we met and in a week he moved from his family and friends 4 hours away to live with me. We have been together for 2 yrs now and still goin strong. We love eachother more than anything. So i think you should come and meet him if you are possitive you know him well enough and really trust him.
2006-09-17 10:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful. he could be a complete psycho. i know not all people are like that. a lot of them are very honest. but he could be way older than he says and have lied about a lot of things. he could be married, have an STD, you would never even know it. i think its hard to trust the people that live near you and you see every day. so if you meet this guy do it in a public place and bring a few of your friends. its only worth leaving everyone if you truely love him and want to be with him and then i dont even know.. your family and friends are people that will always be there for you. this guy might just be after a fling and leave you.
2006-09-17 10:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by ::Hannah:: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cares for you the way he tells you he does, he'll come to you--- please be careful! I know that there are people who have found their soul mate on here, but for the most part it's a very dangerous world on here. I've met many people from the net, male and female... I've been fortunate to make some very long lasting friends, but please please be careful. And let the man come to you! And if he does come to the UK, he needs to book a hotel.. you meet him in a public setting, not just the 1st time either... and make sure that all times you are with him, that someone knows your whereabouts at all times and who you are with. Better to be safe than sorry!
2006-09-17 10:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love on the net is dangerous as people do not always present their true selves. If you are thinking of meeting him, do it in a public place with plenty of witnesses and make sure to let everyone know where you will be and with whom. If he loves you, he should be able to come to the UK to meet you in person and decisions about leaving your home to be with him should be well thought out as you never know how he will act once you are away from the security of your home...
2006-09-17 10:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I really wish I knew how old you were cause that would determine how I answer this. Anyway, have you ever talked to this guy on the phone?? How do you know that he is HONESTLY who he says he is? You need to exchange photos and phone calls for a while before you make your way to see him. Do I think you can find someone online? Yes. Now falling in love is a different story. No one knows how you feel so in the end only you can answer that. Good Luck!! :)
2006-09-17 10:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember that both of u were behind a screen while talkin...very safe method i should say.....the same words could have made a huge difference if u were facin each other live instead....
but yes its possible to find love like this.....
it all depends on what happens when u two meet...u will know...but i advise u to take things slow, dont rush anythin esp physically.....and be ready to accept any disappointments...
but hey NOTHIN is worth sacrificin ur family, home and friends...coz thats who u r, wat u r, n dont let any1 take that away from u.....
think abt it...uve lasted this long...cant u wait a lil longer till meetin him becomes a possibility?..else since he is a guy it wud be a lot easier if he came down to meet u instead..
whatever it is u decide..i wish u happiness n goodluck...take care
2006-09-17 10:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by sah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i know its possible. I found my true love off the net. BUT we lived in the same city. So be careful.
2006-09-17 10:29:47 · answer #11 · answered by Pooh_in_indy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋