I was with my ex b/f for 3 years and 5 months, our relationship was far from perfect he cheated on me gave me an std and treated me like a mug... but all the time we were together I did everything and anything for him but, then a light switched on in my head and I questioned what why i was with him.. I realised i did not need to be with him as all he was doing was ruining my confiedence and knew he must not of loved me to treat me the way he did.. i finished with him and moved to back home... He has changed and I can see it without him saying anything.. we met on friday and we had a laugh like we always used to cos even though he hurt me in the ways he did we were always close and we were like brother & sister.. nothing happened on fri but when we left eachother we gave eachother a kiss on the lips and we were flirting a bit.. he said that i looked stunning (i was in work suit).. he wished things could of been different... does he love me?
2006-09-17 03:02:51 · 17 answers · asked by lisajoanne019 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes probably in his own way. Dont get back with him, just be friends,
2006-09-17 03:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Raine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gave you an std and treated you like a mug? Your relationship was far from perfect? How much punishment do u think you need b4 u run a mile? Ppl who love each other do not do those things to the other. One compliment and a bit of flirting and ur all his again?? Cmon! you deserve better.
Does he have to give u aids b4 u will take better care of u?
2006-09-17 10:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has on the outside but be careful as on the inside he might still be the same.Keep him at arms length until you have proof he has changed completely.Don`t be fooled by all of his charm and patter,try and remember this is the man who treated you badly and worse gave you an STD which by the way he never told you how he came about contracting it himself.Who`s to say you two get back together and at some point down the line he reverts back to that same man who hurt you.....Good luck.
2006-09-17 10:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, not if he was cheating on you and gave you an STD... keep on moving on... in your heart you can forgive him, but do you really want to keep on with a man that put you thru all that? I'm sorry but his past behaviour shows he has no respect for women in general and if you were back with him, the same thing would happen again eventually! You deserve better than that. Concentrate on loving yourself, being confident in who you are and what you stand for, and never allow that situation to happen to you again!
2006-09-17 10:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably realised exactly how much he loves you and regrets mistreating you the way he did. Hindsight is a beautiful thing.
Don't let that change your mind about him though. You left him for a reason. The way I see it, he had his chance with you and he blew it. You you need to move on and so does he.
2006-09-17 10:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by StolenAnjel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me i have been there done, fortunately i caught no std, but my ex liked to think he had the power to turn me off and on, but i became strong, and were still good friends to, but he no longer has that kind of control over me to fall for him just because he tells me how good i look, i know this for myself, because i make sure of it, i no longer need his approval to feel good about myself, and trust me you don't either.
He saw that you were looking good that day in your work suite, and probably had some regrets, but i wouldn't go as far as to say he as to say it's love...love is selfless, he just wants to test drive so to speak, and do you really want to go back to that place you moved on from?...you have to be clear, and honest if you still have feelings for him then it's your decision at the end of the day.
2006-09-17 10:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don,t really know, i have come across this before myself, and he may just be sweet talking you, sometimes men do grow up a bit. so just play it easy and see what happens, if hes treated on you with other women that is bad, sometimes people like someone when they are not available when they are available they take them for granted again, so watch out. your happiness is important. You don,t want to be hurt again, take care Denise.
2006-09-17 12:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it s not easy to tell as i am not aware about the full story.
he lost you and didn t expect for YOU to leave him (it sounds like he would be the one in control,right?).
He doesn t accept the fact that you are the one in control this time and broke up with him. so he s trying to still have you back to make his confidence feels better. he wants to ensure himself that you still like him and control the situation again.
if i was you, let him show you a bit of respect, see him when YOU want. Don t show him that you still love him, don t go to him whenever he wants to.. build up some confidence girl. go out, flirt with other guys, and try to forget about him. once you a bit ready you can see him as a friend...but in the case if you want to come back to him, don t do it now. make him wait. overwise he ll be in control again, and he ll think that he can do whatever he wants with you. hope that will help babe.
2006-09-17 10:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by purpletear1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is acting. Some men like to keep things to themselves because they lost them earlier, even though they have no feelings for them. Find somebody who respects you.
My ex treated me as if we were bf and gf after we broke up - much better than when we were together. Some people feel better when they know they can manipulate your emotion.
2006-09-17 11:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he probably does have some kind of feelings for you - if you were together that long. However, the reality is that he cheated on you and probably only sees you as some kind of object that he can manipulate and use for sex... Steer well clear of him...
2006-09-17 10:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have changed but you broke up for a reason - you two dont work. Dont allow him to take advantage of situations. He knows which buttons to push, he knows how to make you blush and he knows how to make you stay. Walk away.
2006-09-17 10:21:43 · answer #11 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋