Hi!
I have a problem.I would be keen to help my hubby to be to get on track.The thing is he`s just come on friday from a court where he was fighting for seeing his children which hasn`t been allowed for past nearly three years.Unfortunately he didn`t get any closer.He`s devastated,using strong language saying that these aren`t his children,that he has no strenght and ability to fight anymore.I`m trying now to find any sort of way how to help him.Even though we have already children together,but I do know that he misses his two oder girls too,which is just normal.I want to give him the best support,but I don`t know from where do I have to start.Please your advice,people!!!
2006-09-17 02:46:12 · 11 answers · asked by Agni R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, so mums a *****, and shes restricting access, mainly as a weapon, and she obviously knows its messing with her Exs head.
heres a reality check, my wife tried this with me, we had two kids... keep them.. ill see tehm on their birthdays and at christmas. (no court in the land will object to that) and i walked. and as teh kids grew older, they bgan to understand the manipulative *****, and realised dad wasnt the bad guy, it was mum lying and decieving them.. using tehm as a weapon to hurt dad. and they tend to be very loyal, dad is dad, whatever happens.
now, my kids are grown up, i see them as often as i can, and ive discussed their upbringing, and all the kids said was this; we knew you were always at the end of the phone, we didnt sit there staring out of the windows on saturday waiting for you to come, and you didnt show.. we were never part of the MAC dad club. (where bored dads take the kids to macdonalds)
and how did i achieve this? i talked to my kids, as adults, and i told them how it was. the truth is the truth at the end of the day.
good luck. and keep smiling...
2006-09-17 03:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if i get your question right then it is about support for your hubby in a situation where noone is winning.
Apart from in some fantasy novels there is no such thing as a magic wand which can make everything right. Support is being someone there to lean on, someone who listens and provides love and strength to carryon. The stress and unhappieness caused in vindictive emotional games with children suffering in the middle is in need of alot of support. This will put a burden on your shoulders as well so i would advise you have a shoulder to lean from a close friend or family.
Actions always speak louder than words, so when the words fail a hug and shoulder, or ear to listen is the best you can do.
Hope it works out
2006-09-23 04:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by shadow69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be a reason that youre not aware of. Thweir are a lot of step parents out there who divorce parteners but not children that arent their own biological children
2006-09-22 13:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mercy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately court usually go with the mother which isn't always fair, maybe a citizen advice can help or a solicitor that specialises in that subject good luck i hope you see your kids soon
2006-09-20 21:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by kathdes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all divorces are bitter but they become right in the end even if you have to wait until the kids grow older and are able to see who they choose then its worth sticking it out
2006-09-21 06:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard situation for you and him I'm sure he love you and the children he has with you - this however doesn't lessen the pain of the children he has lost
2006-09-20 19:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by mini the prophet of fubar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorces anywhere could be as fair as the lawyers. good luck.
2006-09-17 02:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find out the answer to your question, let me know. I'm in the exact same boat as you....
2006-09-17 03:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bodieann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to be the wife that you are & support him. He needs your strengh sista. It will be over soon.
2006-09-17 03:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by trishelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's fair as long as the lawyers make money.
2006-09-24 03:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋